Ok so im 20 yrs old and im nice....i get along with almost everyone and i go out with my friends to the club almost every weekend, but i just cant hang on to a guy long enough. I mean wat is it about me???? Im a good listener and i dont complain, but i havent had a good relationship in like 1yr. am i too nice????
2007-03-25 22:09:54 · 17 answers · asked by epena86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem is not getting a guy to go out with me...its that after we go out on a few dates we end up being "friends"
2007-03-25 22:29:47 · update #1
I think you need more confidence. Clubbing isn't exactly the place to find a boyfriend, it's ok to find a one night stand but not exactly a place where you can talk and get to know someone really well.
Be confident in talking to a guy, but don't make it seem like you want to get into a serious relationship. People love a chase - make people think that they wouldn't deserve you. Don't go looking for a boyfriend, make them look for you.
2007-03-25 22:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by jimi h-b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok this is from a 45 year old retired major "Cock Hound" First of all if your little cartoon even closely resembles you then you are cute enough to attract a guy so here are the problems with a "good relationship"
1) Guys your age only want to get laid not have a relationship
2) Single guys my age ( I am happily married by the way) only want to get laid without the strings of a relationship, we just sometimes need a little blue pill
3) You are 20 years old and "like" you still "like' write like you're like 18 you know what like I mean?
4) Maybe ditch the teen speak, go to more upscale clubs with some different friends and look for guys a few years older than you who have some depth to them, have sewn the wild oats. Good Luck, and trust me on this, just when you decide to say the hell with finding a nice guy and just start enjoying being you, THEN out of the Blue he will show up. Get involved in something you are passionate about, that way you will meet people who are like minded, church group, Politics even. But this much is true, the guys in the "Clubs" only want to put another notch on their bedpost (mine fell off) so go to the clubs for fun but dont expect to find a stable relationship there
2007-03-26 05:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are to young or at least going out with guys who are to young to have relationships. I mean you have hardly lived your life yet. don't worry about getting a relationship at least for 5 years. it's like buying a car when you are just starting most of the time you buy a cheap car that works good and runs. then you graduate to a good car you can take almost anywhere. next you get the "cool" car you love to be seen in and with, and last you get the dependable and maybe bigger car you can fit with your lifestyle and family. right now you are probably just looking into the good cars get a few good cars test driven then find your cool car that might turn into your dependable car or not but for now have fun test driving some cars you may not even be totally sure what kind of car you want yet.
2007-03-26 05:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few beautiful friends with this same problem. I don't think its anything wrong with you.. maybe you just haven't found anyone that you really connect with. I know it's hard, but try to be patient. When you find the right person, things will fall into place if they are meant to be. Trite but true.
If you have to keep analyzing someone's feelings, chances are "he's just not that into you." Read the book!
2007-03-26 05:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by jenny s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not enough info to make a decision on that. And if you get any advice, dont listen, these people on here have no idea who you are or what you are about. Just keep being you and when the time is right Mr right will drop on in.
2007-03-26 05:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Dr-Brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say the first date is as far as it ever gets?
In that case, it isn't the guys...it's something about you they're afraid to even tell you.
I'm certain you brush your teeth, but have you brushed your breath? Do you change your undies every day? Shower everyday? There's something about Mary...
How many older brothers do you have?
They say if you want to know what a girl will look like when she gets older, just look at her mother...You've haven't been introducing them to your mother, have you?
2007-03-26 05:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B patient!!!! Its good to get a long time 2 find u a partner. cz when the time passes, u can get to know abt the pple easyly!!
Stay the same!!
Gud Luck!!
2007-03-26 05:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest not to go clubbing every weekend....find a guy and take him out to a quiet place away from the cigarette smoke and noise...
2007-03-26 05:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I need a picture and a two page bigraphy before that question can be answered.
2007-03-26 05:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by imraybarbonifrommiami 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop worrying about it and then you will behave normally and nature will take its own course and you will find your match sooner.
2007-03-26 05:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋