My husband is talking about going to the Memphis School of Preaching, to become a Church of Christ preacher, obviously. And I agree with him that he would make a wonderfull preacher, but I'm not sure I'm ready for all the scruteny I would be under as a preacher's wife. Any suggestions about not caring what people say? HELP!!!!
2007-03-25 21:50:24 · 9 answers · asked by princess_bluerose 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Good school choice! A lot of good preachers are graduates from MSOP.
Now about your question: Your husband obviously thinks highly of you or he would have never married you. He obviously thinks you would be a good help to him as a preacher.
Just be yourself. Of course try to be diplomatic, kind, a good example, etc., but these are things EVERY member should do, not just the preacher's wife! Be the person your husband fell in love with and others will love you also!
Don't try to pretend to be someone you are not! By the way, there is no office of a preacher's wife in the church! The preacher's wife is just another member!
Be active in the work of the church, but just because you are the preacher's wife, that does not mean you have to volunteer for everything! Be active, but don't let yourself get overwhelmed! Fell free to say "I can't handle or organize this task right now".
Finally, when your husband graduates, his first job will probably be as an associate or youth minister. With that being the case, there will be the full-time pulpit minister and his wife that will help you along and help you to adjust.
Have faith (trust) in the Lord, and just do your best as a member of the body of Christ. If you do this, everything will be fine!
2007-03-27 08:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by JoeBama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand the Church of Christ (relatives belong), you'd better care what people say, or hubby won't have a job long. I think it is a real tough position to put yourself and your children in. So if you are totally devoted to the idea, you'd better have some long talks with your husband. It might be advisable to seek some counseling also; although I'm not sure counseling through church channels is a good idea because they are a bunch of gossips and you can believe it would be found out.
I say Church of Christ being a problem because the pastors are hired and fired by the congregation, with no real overseeing board that does much. I hope I'm wrong, but this is the impression my family gave me.
It is not a pentecostal group but VERY fundamentalist, and put a lot of stock in works. Women have their place in the church, and should not get out of line, so if you are a modern, thinking type woman, you may feel quite a lot of pressure. The wife of a pastor, I think, is a real partner in his profession and in the "package deal" they offer when they come to a church.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 22:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be afraid, because you are his wife, therefore the lord has made you both one. All the talent that the lord has blessed your husband with is automatically in you as well and vise versa. You have it in you, don't let the devil discourage you, or to think that your not good enough. The lord said "do not fear for I am with you who can ever come against you". Theres a story of a man in the bible who use to stutter a lot. He one day told Jesus that he would do anything for him and Jesus replied. "Go and spread the good news." The man was afraid and said, "but how can I? It would be impossible, I will embarrass my self and stutter to much. " The lord said not to worry for he would be there with him. Later when the man went to preach the holy Sprit fell downl upon him and he gave a great message and did not stutter.
Trust in the lord, he believes in you and like his word says. "I will left you up, I am your righteous hand".
God Bless you guys.
2007-03-25 22:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible not to care what people say, what is possible is to continue to love and work for God. We must learn early on that when people strike at you it is because of something in their lives. We need to pray for these individuals and always remember not to take it personal. They are attacking the God in you and not you yourself. Do I promise you will never get hurt? The answer is no. But always remember his ministry is your ministry; as well. When God called him, He called you also. Keep praying, keep loving, keep serving, with time comes experience and experience brings wisdom.
2007-03-25 22:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by s. grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to really believe in what you are doing. All Christians are under undue scrutiny by the world. It's the scrutiny by other Christians that can throw us for a loop. Just be true to yourself. Remember you have to please God, not other people.
2007-03-25 22:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Prof Fruitcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
Do not worry, True Christians will not judge you, consider this teaching of Jesus in the bible:
Matthew 7
Judging Others
1"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
God Bless.
2007-03-25 21:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by ianptitchener 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps the best way is to learn as much as you can from your husband as he is learning. It will re-enforce his training and help you understand the best way to assist him. You might consider taking some courses yourself if it's possible.
2007-03-25 21:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by kaehya2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its your kids that have to worry more bout that bit, the uestion is are you ready for all the work wifes of preachers(had to watch the wording) do alot of work. i mean alot
2007-03-25 21:57:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sure God will give you the grace, wisdom and confidence to know what critizisms are helpful are what ones aren't.
2007-03-25 22:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by bcooper_au 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋