It is like the love I give out gets converted to hatred and comes back to me threefold in that form. I never react badly to the difficult behavious I am presented with, and I always forgive. My current life experiences are reinforcing my horrible childhood experiences. I have tried hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and CBT, and none have shifted this problem. Is there anyting I am missing?
2007-03-25 21:33:21 · 11 answers · asked by kirsttheworst 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Have you seen a kinesiologist? Or a Neuro Linguistic Programming practitioner? maybe the Universe is trying to challenge you. You may be resisting a decision that you're unsure of the consequences of.
2007-03-25 21:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by HerbGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why you never react badly to difficult behaviours and always forgive. What has happened to the anger you must feel somewhere? I notice you also say that your current experiences are reinforcing earlier ones. This is something we all tend to do and it seems bizarre - we recreate the same stuff that we so much want to avoid. The reason for this is that a part of us is hoping that 'this time it can be different'. It's difficult to change, but I am sorry to hear that psychotherapy didn't help. How long did you give it? Was it someone well-qualified? I don't think CBT is the most useful intervention in this context (it can be very helpful indeed with some things) and I don't really know enough about hypnotherapy to comment, but good psychotherapy, preferably from a psychoanalytic, psychodynamic, psychosynthesis, transpersonal or perhaps TA perspective would usually be able to work some of this through. It will take time, though - you've had a lifetime of building up this pattern and it won't go in six or ten sessions. You are likely to benefit from committing to a year or more of regular psychotherapy. You talk about your self-loathing subconscious, so you would seem to have enough 'psychological-mindedness' to be able to use psychotherapy well.
2007-03-26 03:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ambi valent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 02:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good to be giving and forgiving, whatever gets thrown at you. But, learn to make your experience work for you. Try and make small changes in your decision-making that will change the way people treat you: there are choices. By presenting yourself differently: i.e. not advertising that you are a softy (because you have had some bad formative experiences), people won't see you as a pushover and may have to work a bit harder to earn your respect. This is good for you, good for your self-esteem and could open some space for positive responses to you.
2007-03-25 22:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and get out and spend time with happy surroundings , go to the beach sit down and feel thank full for the free things in life, go to the park and look at the daffodils (depending on where you live) go to the zoo and look at the monkeys they are always good for a laugh. Don't make problems so big I bet there are people in the world today with much larger problems.
2007-03-25 22:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by territinsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are thinking about things too much to me. It's the same with most people who suffer from depression or other similar problems. If you stop thinking so much the problems disappear. The more you think about it the worse it gets as the whole thing is all in your mind anyway. Try to notice the colours in life as you walk past them and stop living inside your head.
2007-03-25 21:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by SR13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you tried EFT?-its meant to be good in this area-also
try some affirmations that reinforce positive self images.
its still you creating the scenes in your life by replaying the negatives--when you learn to think positive your mind will attract better things into your life-but I think you will have to work hard to turn things around,like many people have to.
2007-03-26 04:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by mr.bigz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attack the subconscious by taken verses out of the bible and mediatating upon them expassilly at bed time and they will affect your subconcious. You need to see yourself as the beautiful person God made you and sees you and not the negative way others have
you are acting out the past and need to stop this but to do this you need to see yourself as God sees you and this will raise your self esteem you are God,s workmanship he choose you to be born and wants to free you from the past and can do as he did me
2007-03-26 10:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by denny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There there Tony. Have a good chat with Cherie when she gets home.
2007-03-25 21:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try looking at your faith in God, ignor NI.
2007-03-25 21:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by BNP. Protect Great Britain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋