2007-03-25 21:19:09 · 10 answers · asked by Panda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't worry. If you both feel comfortable that way and it does not hurt anyone's feelings it's fine. There is no hard and fast rule that you have to be really close to your sis-in-law. If you can survive without creating a crisis unnecessarily it is good. At least you both respect each other's presence in the family.
2007-03-25 21:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by AngelEyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. With my sis-in-law it's all about her. She calls allot and it is always some drama. When I need someone she could care less and I have come to the realization that it has always been an act. She wants me and her brother to split and I have told her and her mom that after 10 years it is not going to happen. We have been through way to much and prevailed that there wimping attempts at breaking us up is not going to work. I don't answer the phone if they call and I have distanced myself. I do not have to put up with there abusive ways. If you think that it will help talk with your sis-in-law and see whats up. It may actually help. I tried it hopefully it will turn out better for you. Remember I gave up with the in-laws after 10 years. Good Luck.
2007-03-26 11:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Grace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
an act of her being nice or acting on her being mean?
just remember we aren't on this blue ball to get along with everyone that is impossible we are just here to be the best we can to those we meet and call our friends. maybe you could even ask her what bugs her about you. talk it might be some stupid thing she has in her mind like you hate her so she will hate you as well.
2007-03-26 04:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem is you can't choose your family members. Positive (for your extended family) is that you are both mature adults and are at least speaking, even though the relationship is uncomfortable and strained.for each of you.
I wasn't as lucky. We don't see my husband's family (except for his younges sister) because of the poisoned relationship initiated by his jealous and resentful oldest sister. Their last meeting was very embarrassing -- I'm sure her entire block heard her loud voice.
2007-03-26 18:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation and it was an act on both parts. But it kept peace and "who cares". We didn't hang out together; just pretended to be nice for the sake of family when we were together. It worked ok. And no one really cared one way or another. Godloveya.
2007-03-26 04:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to you. Why don't you start establishinhg an honest relationship with her. You can make a difference and improve the quality of relaitonship. Begin to appreciate her for something she is good at. You will see small miracles taking place...
2007-03-26 04:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Tere - educator & professor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way about mine. when they got married I said I thought of her as my new sister yet she doesn't seem to be interested. I've come to realize she and my brother are phony and change who they are to be like the people around them. They no longer are part of my life and I'm happier for it.
2007-03-26 04:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me, I don't feel it's very important to be close to my in-laws at all. Extending courtesies would be just fine.
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2007-03-26 04:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
mAYBE SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY, WHY NOT TRY A NEW APROUCH? BE HONEST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL, TELL HER WITHOUT PUTTING BLAME ON HER ASK HER IF SHE FEELS THE SAME TOWARDS YOU DISCOVER SOMETHING ABOUT EACH OTHER.
2007-03-26 04:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's family for you.....;)
2007-03-26 04:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋