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Part 2
Would people please stop telling me what an awful person I am? I hate myself enough as it is. I’m neither selfish nor a bad person and if you knew me you’d realize that. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone. I didn’t come here to be judged, I came here for objective advice. I made a mistake, a huge one I know that and I would give anything to change what I did. I didn’t leave him with nothing. I made sure he received the best medical care possible and even though he’s a very wealthy man I left without a cent because I didn’t want his money. It really couldn’t have been all that bad if he survived on his own; at least I hope it wasn’t. He’s young (31) and fit. We’re still married and I hope to God he doesn’t choose to throw away 7 years of marriage because of one mistake.
2007-03-25 20:39:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know from a friend that he hasn’t been with anyone since me because we’re still legally married and that he’s asked about me and know he still wears his wedding ring as do I. It wasn’t an easy decision to leave but I had finally managed to get everything I ever wanted in life and finding out about the cancer was a devastating blow. My life was pure hell before I met him at 22 and I just couldn’t take any more. If any of you even had the slightest idea of what I’ve been through before he came into my life you would take back most of the names you chose to call me. We had the world at our feet and then everything changed. I want to make this right. I want things to go back to the way they were because no one has ever been there for me, understood and treated me the way he has. I would gladly give my life for this man without a second though so doesn’t tell me I don’t love him. The first time we’ve spoken in 2 years was 2 weeks ago and he didn’t seem angry or bitter.
2007-03-25 20:39:37 · update #1
He told me he was doing really well and didn’t mention getting a divorce meaning there’s hope. If the cancer comes back again, I won’t leave his side. After I left him I moved to another state to start over but I couldn’t knowing what I left behind so eventually after 2 years I came back. I keep asking the question in various categories because I’m desperate for objective advice. He’s the one good thing that has ever happened to me. Those of you doubting the validity of my query, I wish to God it wasn’t true. None of you could possibly make me feel worse for what I did than I already feel. Please help me! How do I convince him to give me a second chance? I truly am nothing without him.
2007-03-25 20:39:58 · update #2
I really don't know what to say. I know you regret your actions but to leave your loved one when he needed you most must have hurt him so bad. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you have felt to be deserted like that? Our vows when we get married state that we will we be together in good times and in bad. Since you walked out on him I would think that you need to organise to meet up and you need to explain your actions. From what you say about him he seems like a wonderful person with a big heart. I think he would understand but it would be up to him to decide if he wants to keep the marriage or not. We all make mistakes but sometimes we have to pay a heavy price for it. You did mention though that you want him back because he's ok now. I didn't like the way you put that across. Anyways, I hope and pray things work out for you both and if your hubby forgives you he deserves the utmost respect because in my opinion forgiveness is the greatest of virtues.
2007-03-25 22:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by AngelEyes 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he thinks like I, and along with anyone else WHO has been burned and hurt. If you do it once you will do it again. You keep asking in different Categories BECAUSE you have NOT heard what you WANT to to ease your guilt you feel. I'm glad you feel the way you do as you deserve it. You do not love this man, you are trying to make yourself feel better and that is all it is. He takes his marriage Vows Seriously, and evidently you do not. You say you "hope to God he doesn’t choose to throw away 7 years of marriage because of one mistake". Well let me ask you this, who made the mistake., you, no, you were being selfish, and he deserves better than you, and he will eventually find that someone who loves and cares for him as he IS. God would forgive you maybe, but if it was me, NO. He has grounds for Divorce according to the Word of God since you have brought God's name into it by the way. Move on and let the man live in Peace and be Happy. He may not ever say anything about what has happened, BUT he will never forget it believe me, and will always wonder if it will happen again if things get bad. There is NO Trust anymore with someone like you are.
2007-03-25 23:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have asked similar questions multiple times in other categories and received significant response from people who trusted that the questions were real.
It's hard to trust you. And, that would be your answer as far as your husband is concerned too. He will never trust you again, nor should he. Do not bother this man anymore.
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2007-03-26 00:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Panda 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell HIM all of this?
Write him a letter explaining what you did and why you did it... but at the end he'll have to make his own decision.
You did what you did and although I don't think you did the right thing, it is in the past and nothing you can do to change it...
Write him, talk to him...
Good luck!
2007-03-25 22:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think u're the most selffish woman i've ever seen in my life..when u knew dat ur husband was diagnosed to cancer you leave her..just bcuz u think dat your hubby is a patient of cancer maybe u becum infected too..datz why u leave him,when he really needs you.but know as u come to know dat hes now all fine you want to be with him again...SO MEAN!!! U ARE....now u deserved to live ur life alone n i think dats ur punishment.
just think if he again infected then u again leave him..cuz dats ur habit.
2007-03-26 03:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i jst feel its better if u pack ur things ur things and knock the door of his home.. He will jst be there shocked.. Then u guys talk face to face..
It no point u talking to him on the phone as he can't see that u are sincere!!
Or don pack ur things yet, jst go and meet him up. Don't keep any appointments on that day and go on.. Get him something which u know that he like to eat... Go and talk.. I hope i help u in this way..
2007-03-25 22:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
YOU ARE A VERY VERY SICK PERSON.
WE ALL GAVE YOU AN ANSWER.
WHAT YOU JUST KEEP ASKING 'TILL SOMEONE GIVES YOU AN ANSWER YOU WANT TO HERE?
THAT IS A SURE SIGN OF MENTAL ILLNESS.
STOP MAKING US ALL SICK. AND NOW THAT YOU HAVE REVEALED HE "COMES" WITH MONEY!!!!!
YOU DON'T STAND A CHANCE!!!!
give it up!
2007-03-28 18:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by susie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you bailed out on him when he needed you the most. He doesn't owe it to you to get back together. You're lucky he chooses to be civil to you.
2007-03-25 23:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't miss your water, till your well runs dry.
You should feel not so good about yourself, because it says for better or for worst, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.
2007-03-25 22:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by reddie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whoo-hoo! Two points!!!!!
By the way, give it up. You don't deserve him.
Get a diary to write your woes in.
2007-03-25 21:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Destine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋