Ok so here it is. My partner and I pretty much compliment each other as best as u could imagine, we are mad about each other. The only part that is hard for me to compromise in is the sex.
I have quite a high sex drive for a female, and for a male I would say his is average. It's hard for me not to take offence to this as I see being intimate often as a part of expressing your love for the other person.
He hates that he cant satisfy my drive but if he doesn't really feel like it I don't really want him faking it for me.
Instead of just giving up on this and accepting that my sex life isn't as high as i would like it, i would like to take another approach.
How can I find ways to turn him on more, as I see it, if the stimulation is there the rest follows. I want it to be passionate, I want slamming against the wall, ripping your clothes off, biting their shoulder sort of stuff.
He claims to have never experienced this so I fear it's more a thing of not knowing what to do.....help me
2007-03-25 20:38:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok thanks for the responses guys....
Just a little more detail to it now....
I do dress up for him and he loves that, it usually is a sure thing, but i dont want to do that everytime u know???
I guess some of you are right, i am the aggressive one of us, but i dont pressure him, like i never get angry or reject him if he doesnt feel like doing it.....
the more i think about it the more i come to the conclusion that maybe its just he doesnt have as high a sex drive and that wont change, so all my efforts will constantly be an up hill battle you know?
I hope someone can prove otherwise....
2007-03-25 22:50:13 · update #1
1. Change the venue of your love-making. Maybe the familiar confines of the bedroom just don't have the right ambiance anymore. Or you can turn this same bedroom into a fantasy place - use your imagination.
2. Play sex games. Pretend you're a sex siren trying to seduce him. Or do a role-reversal...Since you are the aggressive one, you could lead and tell him just to follow. I hope there's enough love there to enable him to at least try some experimentation. You could do this slowly so as not to spook him. Don't try to do everything all at once; instead increase the dosage (intensity level) each time he has gotten used to a certain game.
3. Indulge on self-gratification techniques (without him knowing it) so when it comes time for your usual love-making, you are not wanting for more because you have had your pleasures some other way.
4. If things still don't improve after any of the above, maybe it's time for him (or you) to seek professional help. His problem could be psychologically-rooted.
You may e-mail me if you need more details.
2007-03-25 21:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he hates that he can't satisfy your drive. But you don't mention why. Is he upset because he wishes he was a better lover? Or is he just worried that you'll go elsewhere?
The other thing is it sounds like you want it pretty rough. Not all guys are comfortable with that. They're scared of hurting, or it's just not how they like it.
I'm guessing that you are fairly demanding in bed. Maybe you need to take things slow at the beginning. Do things the way he likes to start, then you can slowly pick up the tempo as you get going. Go in steps, and make sure he notices how much you are enjoying it.
2007-03-26 03:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything besides being penetrated. It seems to me that in addition to having a high sex drive, u are a tad impatient. Like one other person said, keep at it, he'll take the cue and send u flying one fine day!!
All ze best
2007-03-26 03:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bruno Tataglia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK lets start for one try and find out if he likes a girl in uniform then go to annsummers and see if they have them in stock thats a real turn on. No2 lots of foreplay tease him bite him gently tie him up if you want. Cover him in chocolate or cream and lick it off him slowly. Oh my listen to me getting excited sorry but try it out it works for me he he
2007-03-26 03:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are frightening him.. If you continue this, he may not even be able to get it up.. Men like feminine woman. If your sex drive is high, slowly and tactfully get him involved.. Demanding it and making him feel inadequate is not the answer.
2007-03-26 03:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just calm down a bit try to stop completely that will drive himm up the wall and he will end fuccin u like neva before
2007-03-26 03:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by thugslife15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was once on your guy´s shoes...
luckily, like you, my girlfriend looked for other ways that could turn me on. my advice is for you not to be so submissive to your guy, just light. try to listen more to what he says and observe how he acts on certain things that you do to him. your man will be surprised with the things which are new to him, especially if it´s with you. there´s a beast in every guy... haha! just switch on the right button.
there are negative reactions, but it depends. i am sure he loves you and he´ll appreciate evrything that you´ll do.
2007-03-26 04:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him. Tell him what you want when your in bed and ask him what he likes. If he doesn't know then experiment. You'll find a compromise eventually.
2007-03-26 03:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing all that you do while fondling his private parts and he will yield to your desires. Put his hands where you expect him to touch and he will follow. feed him a lot of peanuts and chocolates to excite his body.
2007-03-26 03:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose weight, get a boob job, find out his fantasies, I don't think any woman will ever be happy with their sex life, men just aren't as good as woman, there you go, have a woman friend on the side.
2007-03-26 03:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by DnBprincess850 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋