ruin his life?? If he physically and mentally abused you. If he cheated on you and lied to you and disrespected you. If during the whole 2 years you were together, you later found out all these terrible things about him. The physical abuse was the last thing he did before I got rid of him. I found out all the other things after he was gone. Now I can destroy his sorry life. Should I do it?
2007-03-25 20:13:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did call the police.
2007-03-25 20:19:06 · update #1
No, don't! You will get yourself into trouble, and you will end up ruining your own life. You are just mad right now - justifiably so. But don't act on this anger. Anger makes it so you can't think clearly. It would be a big mistake to try to ruin his life. He will ruin his own, trust me. If he's a scoundrel like that, it'll all come back to him. Just be good, and good things will come to you.
2007-03-25 20:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Nuff Said Sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute you decide to ruin his life as you put it is the minute you ruin yours 10 fold.
YOU are the first victim of every action you take against him. Sure, he may feel the heat, but you will be in the center of the fire when the pleasure of hurting him wears off.
My best advice to you is to invest your time in things that truly make you happy and a positive person. You will then surround yourself with positive energy and it will flock to you.
You've been deceived. If only we had the same contempt to apply ourselves in realizing how much we decieve ourselves.
You've been hurt. Yet, name me one pain on the face of this Earth that is permanent?
Doesn't exist.
Move to a better way.
2007-03-26 03:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste anymore time or energy on him. There is no reason to lower yourself to his standards. The sooner you get on with your life the better. Have him think of you in a good light and miss you when he thinks of you throughout the years...and he will. Revenge may make you temporarily feel better but is not the way to go. You need to concentrate on the future and not the past. So much is waiting for you out there...don't waste one more minute of it on him!
2007-03-26 03:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and you should not be bitter either. Think back did you see the signs? Just find a better man and move on.
It may help in the short run is you said or did some mean things, but in the end he could just go outside the group and be back to the same things.
2007-03-26 03:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you become obsessed with revenge, it will ruin YOUR life, too. I'd definitely talk to the police about the physical abuse. As far as the rest, chalk it up to experience, and move on with your life. Life's too short to waste on vendettas.
2007-03-26 03:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him, he sounds like he is not worth a second thought. And why bother going to the trouble of seeking revenge, he may even take that as a signal you still want him in your life.
I hope you move on and find someone worthy of your love.
2007-03-26 03:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by judles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you shouldn't stoop down to his level. Be mature and reasonable. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Getting rid of him is good enough, and next time find a better boyfriend for you.
Some states have public records. You might want to run those potentials to see if they have records. Or ask their friends..what kind of person is he..u no..stuff like that..
But no, don't waste your time trying to get even with him... it's a waste of time, and it could be more trouble for you.
2007-03-26 03:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better not to dirty your hands honey. Just leave the guy alone and forget about him. It is not worth your while to suffer for him if you do something to him. No, just move on and if possible, move to another state and hope not to meet him again. Go live a new life.
2007-03-26 03:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost any way you can find to have revenge can possibly land you in jail or even worse a mental ward. That person is obviously scum & just pray & thank God that you are still alive & able to function & pray for them. Don't stoop to their level.
2007-03-26 03:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyEddy06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL if u can forgive,,,it mit b fine,,but if ur self respect is wounded ,u shud teach him a thorough lesson.......mak him realize his lowly actions,it wud do 1 gud thng it mit nt hapn 2 another person...........and maybe u wil feel evened out...........bt actions lik these sm tims maynt ve tht effect u wanted on him, and on u 2.think straight,,,if u were so sure of ur revenge kinda thng why did u ASK ths qstn????????????if u wr so sure u cud ve gon ahead with teaching him lesson,,WITHOUT ASKING ANYONE"S OPINION.only u knw wht exactly r u feeling,,so analyze first...if u r desperate enough thn go do wht u wntd 2....yes tak care of your saftey.........
2007-03-26 03:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by shashi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋