I'm scared from previous relationships and can't seriously comit to a women in a relationship. I still date for the company and the intimacy. I just want it to stay casual without getting love into the equation. At least not yet.
I let the women that I date know I can't comit nor will will I fall in love with them. I explain my past, which I won't do here, and they understand when the relationship is started. Yet every single women ends up falling in love eventually. This results in me breaking their hearts because I can't love them back at this time. Don't get me completely wrong. I do have feelings for them it's just not love.
Please I only want women to answer this question.
Why can't you hold back and keep things casual?
2007-03-25 20:10:54 · 8 answers · asked by Rumin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well its just natural for anyone to fall in love with anyone eventually after having sex. Sex brings two people together emotionally.
Its just nature.
My advice would be to sort out your emotional past before being with anyone as its obviously hurting other people who want to be close to you. Not everyone is out to get you hurt, i know that when someone hurts you its very hard to move on and fear that another person may hurt you again.
I would really think about what you want and try and look for someone that you want to be with in long term. I will only be hurt another woman by being casual. Thats the lie with casual sex is that someone always ends up wanting more.
Be true to yourself and learn to love who you are again before loving someone else.
All the best. Remember not all woman are the same. Ciao
2007-03-25 20:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumin
Women are very emotionally attached and for a woman to hang around you for a long while without getting attracted to you further is kinda hard unless you are just friends with nothing more going on, like no touchy feely stuff. Getting intimate for any woman is very emotional, only very few women get intimate casually with no hope for more later.Dating is always the first step and i as a woman would date with prospects of having a relationship not just for the company. If i wanted company id just hang out with my male friends. Just to add , the past is the past you should keep it there nad not let it run your current life, forgiveness means letting go of your past, this will enable you to live your life to the full. All the best
2007-03-26 03:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, I think I would be able to keep in casual because I would detach myself from the situation. You are making it clear that you do not want anything serious in the beginning. However, if you are a great guy, naturally women will want to be with you in a relationship and not just a casual thing. And by you hanging out with the same woman for a period of time, you may tell her you want nothing more but a casual thing but you may be acting like a boyfriend.
2007-03-26 03:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So much baggage on a first date! Hopefully you're not a serial monogamist and are making it very clear that the relationship is open and casual. You date other women and she gets to date, too. There are women out there that can keep things casual and date multiple people. Unfortunately, when women do this, we're negatively labeled (that good ol' double standard). Or maybe you're just so gosh darn lovable because of the whole emotional wound stuff that the women your dating just want to take care of you. Yeah, some of us tend to get sucked into that whole Florence Nightingale cliche, too. Good luck!
2007-03-26 03:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..ever suppose that you are IRRESISTABLE? :D That could be it. Or...you could just be the kind of guy that us girls LOVE falling for. In any other case such as this one, you would be set! But since you aren't looking for love, you pretty much lucked out with something you don't even want to deal with. How long has it been since you got hurt?...Be careful, if you keep pushing women away, you're going to become so anti-love that you may never find it again.
2007-03-26 03:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is almost inherent to woman I think that we want and need to help when someone is in pain. even when you explain this to a woman and they will understand, it is something else to shut down feelings or not act upon them. For me, as a woman it is almost impossible to walk away from someone in pain. especially if that someone is a nice guy too really... then I will at least try to help and when I would fall in love it would be even harder not to want to make you happy.... and your happy and mine would be quite different in this case and that is what makes it impossible to deal with as long as you don't feel able to stay around the love... :)
2007-03-26 03:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do not want gray areas.it's all or nothing.you love me or you don't.maybe you're not clear with what you want as well when u discuss it with the women you are seeing. if they can't help but falling in love with you eventually maybe you're showing them a wrong signal then they start to assume things.maybe the person thinks she will be the one who will change your mind about committing.
2007-03-26 03:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women with morals aren't toys you can play around with... if u want a woman for her company and her body, save up your money and go to the nearest corner... there you will find exactly what you are looking for... sex without commitment, but of course, with a little fee...
2007-03-26 03:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Rubi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋