My ex and I have been talking more since he broke up with me long distance (different countries: I'm in New York; he's in Tokyo) over a month ago. He asked me if I'm coming back to Japan in April and said he is thinking that it will be good if/he is hoping he can see me the week I return. He congratulated me on my new job in Japan. Recently he emails me one day, I reply the next, he replies the next day, and so on. But in his last email he told me he has quite a lot of money now and has quit his part time casual job. I asked him if he has time on his side now that he has quit his job and how he spends his time every day but was this a bad question to ask since maybe this is a sensitive issue? I'm just concerned for him.
2007-03-25 19:58:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Though it may not be relevant: reasons he gave for the break up: we could not see each other due to the distance; most important: he does not feel good enough for me due to his educational background etc (he claims he is a "drop out of a third rate university"); at first he said if he didn't love me, he would continue dating me, do I understand? and his feelings for me fundamentally have not changed, but then he said that he loves me less than in the beginning and his feelings for me have cooled.
2007-03-25 20:03:31 · update #1
no
2007-03-25 20:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Stargate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a casual "so, did you enjoy your spare time" kind of question, then no it's not wrong. If you are asking for other reasons, the answer is yes because he's your ex and what either of you do on your free time is none of the other's business.
2007-03-25 20:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not continuously the job itself however the type you pass approximately it. being a economic planner or inventory broking service isnt incorrect. yet once you're purely into hedge money, futures, and easily speculative making an investment , at lesat with different peoples funds then i could say its incorrect. Being a elegance well-being care expert isnt incorrect, yet once you're doing breast augments on 14 year old women i could say its incorrect. .. i think of you get the factor.
2016-11-23 16:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't love you in the first place, that was just physical chemical attraction that he's losing... You don't stop loving someone if it is actual love. There's nothing wrong with asking him what he does with his time now if it's just a casual conversational question.
2007-03-25 20:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just asking isn't bad. If you start prying, or try to dictate what he does, that's when it gets bad.
Good luck in Japan.
2007-03-25 20:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like us, we don't like someone nosing into our business. What he does is his perogative. He is an X now, so leave it be. I imagine he is a big boy now, and can make decisions on his own.
2007-03-25 20:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋