my daughter was over at her friends house next door and in the course of a week she has managed to break 2 windows, 3vases, 7 pictures, and 2 glass chess sets. WHAT SHOULD I DO??!!
2007-03-25 19:57:31 · 13 answers · asked by bassistmania224 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would question all the damage, How did it happen? I have a 3 and 8 year old who are far from innocent yet are never maliciously destructive...... Kids need supervision at that age, if things are getting out of hand then where is the adult and why has the situation not been stopped before it escalated.....??? How innocent is the friend in all this or is it easier to place the blame on someone elses child? Accidents do happen, our next door neighbors son accidentally fell off his bike into my car causing a huge dent and scratches. I asked him what happened and although reluctant he told me and apologized. I was not mad, I just asked him not to ride his bike or scooter around my car any more.....I don't believe your daughter was the ONLY one to blame...... has this ever happened any where else??? Talk to the other family including the friend and your daughter to get to the bottom of all the accidents..... and where it was her fault maybe offer some payment......
2007-03-26 00:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the father of a 5 year old I really don´t see how a 4 year old could break all those things and especially 2 windows!!
Well, I guess to avoid problems you will have to pay for the damage, but to be quite honest this seems to me the least of your concerns.
1. You should not allow your 4 year old house to go to this house. It is obviously an unsafe place for her to be!
2. A 4 year old can´t be left unsupervised, and if she really was breaking all those things ( which I do not believe) the supervisor should be held responsible. A 4 year old cant be held responsible. In fact a 4 year old has not even yet a fully formed her brain!
3. Make sure to consider carefully who you allow your child to be watched by.
Good Luck
2007-03-26 10:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the others, how on earth does a 4year old child break those kind of things in that quantity over a reasonably short period of time. I can understand a shelf being knocked over with a few things on it etc, but not all that. Is your child destructive by nature? Has anything like this happened before. If your child is not that way inclinded at home then I'd say that your childs friends parents are blaming your child for damage done in some other way. If your child truely did do that kind of damage I would want to know what the hell happened to cause that kind of behaviour in a child and why where you not notified earlier on. And being next door, did you hear a window break? Either call their bluff, or get help for your child.
2007-03-26 03:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE it was your daughter? How did she break so much stuff? Was she running around with her friend?
First of all, do not let her go to this friend's house. THere is not enough supervision, and if a 4 yo is breaking these things that are rather big, this is a SAFETY issue.
Second, find out the details. How did this happen?
Third, if for some reason it was all your daughter's doing [although quite frankly I don't see how this could happen] then you need to pay for the stuff. If it was her and her little friend racing around, then you need to split the cost in half.
I must confess I would LOVE to know how all that stuff got broken by a tiny child!!
2007-03-26 03:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Cris O 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the others, I cannot see a four year old breaking that many things. And where were the parents? I would not allow her to go over there, something does not sound right. They sound like people who are up to something, I don't know what. But be very wary, and ask your daughter about her visits, there may be something going on.
2007-03-26 03:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL first find out all the details and if it was all your child pay for the breakage and then oh say either punish your child by grounding her or a good old fashioned spanking. Let her continue to go over there but buy a security camera for them to see if it was actually your daughter. If it was THEN dont let her go over there because seriously your child cant get along with others.
2007-03-26 03:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Alex C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for the damaged items. Then make your four year old work off some of the money with chores, just to teach her the value of items. I'm not saying slave labor, maybe just a few hours of helping you clean the house. I think she is old enough to grasp the concept. Then teach her how to take it easy and channel that energy into an activity like sports!
2007-03-26 03:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear that discipline might be a good option... you know, like after the first chess set - or maybe 3 vases if you're feeling generous - don't let her go over there anymore? just a thought.
failing that you could always break something of hers, kids love a good eye-for-an-eye lesson
2007-03-26 03:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by doom_burrito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i would apologize to her friend's parents, then i would offer to pay for all of the damages.
the next thing i would do is put that child on a serious time out.... and if you feel she is doing it on purpose, please take her to a counselor for anger management... especially if it occurred after an argument or disagreement with the friend... good luck!
2007-03-26 03:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was she being supervised???
I suggest you dont leave her over there again without your personal supervision.
Sounds like your neighbours either are not watching her or trying to take you for a ride.
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2007-03-26 03:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by raspberryswirrrl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋