My husband tends to talk to girls on the internet all the time when asked he says that the girls are like his sisters and that he doesnt like them the way I think he likes them....he tells them he loves them and that he cares about them and like he even wants one of them to come to our wedding what do i do? I dont like her because she disrespects me, you dont talk to a man who is engaged the way they are talk to him, they are very outspoken about how they feel about him and it makes me mad.......how can i stop this, ive posted blogs explaining that situations like that are not good for relationships and that people need to have respect for couples in relationships.
2007-03-25 19:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by renee_0102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to steer his interest away from the computer. Go out on more dates or just go for walks. Have sex more often if that's what it takes.
He may or may not be intrested in these girls, but if you're that insecure about it, then try to make it so the internet chats are boring to him.
2007-03-25 19:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by NoCash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he doesn't drop the girls you are dropping him. If you are not comfortable with it he shouldn't do it. If he talks to those girls like that it seems to me that he uses those relationships to maintain a certain amount of freedom from this soon to be marriage. You might what to really think about why he continues these relationships with these women. Is he keeping them around so he doesn't feel like his bachelor days are over, and does he do it this way because it is easier to keep you from stomping on it. Be careful you don't want to end up with someone who cheats on you with his computer friends- tell him how you feel and ask him to stop because you feel it is wrong for you and your relationship.
2007-03-25 19:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ian and Tate's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these conversations are as inappropriate are you are implying then you need to have a serious conversation with your Fiancee about this. Let him know you think it's wrong, and are concerned about your relationship. This isn't like porn, he is actually talking to these women. And about you from the sounds of it too. And the fact that one may be coming to the wedding makes it sound like these women are accessible to him.
You have to get this taken care of fast. If he refuses to give them up, you may have to reconsider the marriage. I really wish you well and am very sorry this is happening to you.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 20:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no no.
I know this may sound silly to others but if he loves you and wants to marry you he will obey your wishes and stop talking to these other girls! Online or Not.
I have been through this before, also. And although these girls are not in real life they can affect a relationship dramatically.
I would make him choose. If he loves you he will stop this internet nonesense. You can become very hurt if he does anything wrong with these girls that's why it's very necessary to tell him that he needs to give up these girls.
2007-03-25 19:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
those girls do not need to have any respect to any of your relationships. but your fiancee does. so this is a problem between u and him - he talks to girls, he comes on line, he disrespect u. so deal with it. girls have nothing to do with anything. and if anyone asks me i say it is not normal for a man who is supposed to be in love with one woman to come on line and talk to others
2007-03-25 19:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down and have a serious talk with him and tell him how you feel about it. My fiance asked me if I would be comfortable with him talking on the internet and I told him no. And he respected that. Maybe he just doesn't know how strongly you feel about it
2007-03-25 19:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by black and white beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him about this, let him know how uncomfortable it makes you. there is nothing you can do to stop it on your own. besides i think if you try something stupid to stop it on your own you could potentially ruin your relationship.
2007-03-25 19:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by tindomerel0507 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋