I'm thinking partership and teamwork are allot better than bossing someone around or being bossed around.
2007-03-25 19:40:32 · 13 answers · asked by cuteness 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with your quote cyclone and it's very true. But that's what makes me so mad, I don't want to be with someone I care about more than he cares about me! And I wouldn't be with someone who I don't care about...so isn't there ever a happy medium where you two just care about each other equally?
2007-03-25 20:04:24 · update #1
there is an over abundance of control freaks. They seem to be everywhere.
2007-03-25 19:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, I have no idea.
It could be that one person in a relationship is usually more submissive and one is a more dominant personality. Some people like being told what to do and some people naturally like leading others around. This doesn't necessarily mean being bossy or being bossed around, but it can include such behavior. I think the ideas of teamwork and compromise are a bit more true to what a real relationship should consist of. If there are two "leaders" in a relationship, it probably won't last. The same goes with two "followers". The success of a relationship is not soley dependent on who is in control or even if someone is in control, but this does make a big difference as I'm sure you know.
For example, I'm a dominant person, but I don't enjoy dominating others and I dont' enjoy being dominated. I look for guys that are willing to work with me, not push me down or push me around, or ones that need someone to take care of them.
2007-03-26 02:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Why does everyone seem to think that just one person can be in control of a relationship?"
Have to see whose character is aggressive, normally its the guy will lead the lady. Otherwise, that's another question
to be answer.
Question .. Do you like being BOSS or not ? Some have brains .. some dun. if 2 strong characters BOSS each other,
there bound to b disaster. day to nite to day hunger of POWER. Think again .. its a simple theory but many dun seem the loopholes.
care Bear
2007-03-26 02:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by amichubby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teamwork is the ideal. But you have to realize that each member of that team will have strengths and weaknesses. If one person has a definite strength in a given aspect of their life together then it's reasonable for that person to take a more leading role.
But often the problem is that one person has some self esteem issues and simply allows the other to take over their life.
2007-03-26 02:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If one is always controlling...the other is not really experiencing life as an individual. that's why 'give and take' is important in a relationship. A good relationship will rely on both partners to have particular strengths and be the leader in those cases. sans ego of the other peace
2007-03-26 02:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you might not want to accept this, it is an element of human nature and so therefore hard to refute in reality...BUT, regardless of how much you WANT a relationship to be fair and equal, one person always has some edge.
Here's something I heard once and it makes sense to me...
"The person who cares least about the relationship is the one who will always control it, because they will never compromise. "
Think about that, and see if it doesn't make sense.
2007-03-26 02:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Correct. Lay your cards as is and enjoy your relationship with the right person.
While most of us have the tendency to assert what we believe in, wittingly or unwittingly, we forget that others have their own convictions too. However, this can be easily addressed by one important ingredient in successful partnership..... communication.
2007-03-26 02:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking around that's just they way it is. That's life basically. It's sad but true.Thankfully I'm in a equal relationship but I don't know many people who are.I have sometimes lost friends as their overbearing partners have gotten jealous and won't allow their partners to speak to me.
2007-03-26 02:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by snowluk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree whole heartedly, but i also believe that love is not a contact to be negotiated , who does what , how they should make you feel etc etc... love flows.... you give love and you get love back, not always in the form or conditions you EXPECT, just let love be for loves sake alone......
2007-03-26 03:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by lolleighlegs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one person isnt supposed to be in control of a relationship--it takes two--if you are in a relationship and he is in control--ditch him find a real person to be with that you and this person can do things mutually together
2007-03-26 02:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by charles o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋