if your boyfriend/girlfriend lied to you once would you believe them ever again?

Question

See..this goes back to something else
I found some odd texts in my boyfriends cell,
i asked him who this girl was and he said "i dont know why?"
I just walked away upon that answer.
Later i come to find out that he lied to me about his answer
he knew exactly who she was and why i wanted to know.
he said he didnt tell me the truth cause he knew i would get upset.
was he right to even do that?
now when i ask him something idk if he's lying or not.
he never used to lie to me.
is there a way to get over this or no?
BTW---is it right for a the man in a serious relationship to give his phone number away to girls?
and for the woman in the realtionship to find out like on her own?
even if he says its a friend.

Answer 1

it depends upon you,,, if you still love him,, if you still trust him... whatever happens the truth will always come out, so you are bound to know... and you can actually notice it by the way he answered you...

Answer 2

he's lying now and he'll lie again. He should have been honest from the beginning because he lost the trust you had for him. It'll be very hard to gain it back. If he's in a relationship he shouldn't be flirting with other girls giving his number away. If their just friends why don't you know anything about them? And why wouldn't he introduce you to them if it's nothing to worry about. guy's lie to cover them self's up to protect from getting caught but this gets them in deeper problems especially if they really like their girlfriend.Guy's if you really love your girl and want to stay with them and make it work (Don't lie) there's no need to cheat if you have a good Pretty girl why do this to them. Lying is evil.
If your man is saying it's a friend then tell him you want to meet it and take it from there or get a hold of her numbers and ask as many questions as you want if he finds out so what what can he do take the number away from you?
he shouldn't get mad if it's a friend right? and he didn't want to tell you because what? he new you would get mad so why in the heck did he give his number out in the first place? This alone would get anybody mad hello.
If this continues stop and don't let this go any further there's allot of guy's who won't lie and treat you with more respect yes it'll hurt but it's better this way then an uglier hurt later on down the line.
Good luck!

Answer 3

No it is not right for a man in a serious relationship to give out his phone number! If he doesn't want to tell you who it is it's not just a friend & he's lying!
My ex did the same thing to me in front of m brother's mind you!! He was on the net on his phone & talking to different girls & I asked him who he was talking to he would say his sister or a friend from work. About 2 months later he left his cell home so I let him borrow mine. While he was at work a girl called & ask for my fe-on-say I asked her who she was & she had his girlfriend for the last month & a half. I told her that he was my fe-on-say & that's when she told me that they had been sleeping together & seeing each other on Saturdays for the last few weeks! She told me that he said it was over between the 2 of us & I was no longer in the picture!! Instead of going to see his friend in the city he was seeing her. When he came home I asked him what he was doing & he admitted that he was seeing her at the same time. A few weeks later The same girl called again & I answered & she had wanted to leave a voice message to let him know the plans had been set! She had a hotel room for the next day!! I spoke to my ex & the girl at the same time & told the girl that she could have him & we were over!! He had told me she ended it but I guess not!! I kicked him out & have not seen him since. The ONLY reason my brother's had not said anything was because of me!! They thought I knew they didn't know he was lying to me!! My ex & the girl have been married for 2 yrs!!

Answer 4

I have a boyfriend too and this is my answer.

It is hard for women to understand other girls in their man's life but the fact is, you can't be the only one. You understand that your boyfriend has another girl FRIEND. I have to be on his side for that but he has made a mistake too.

Having a relationship requires trust and he has broken that one. If she is only a friend, he should have no reason to lie. Since she probably isn't just a friend, he has lied. You can't be 100% sure so I would watch him. HINT! Believe in you guy! That is what love is.

Also if a man is going out with someone else too, you don't have to figure it out on your own. He will give you hints even if he doesn't want to. He will get confused and say stupid ments and maybe even act strange. Don't worry! He will reveal himself sooner than you think.

Answer 5

If he wasn't trying to hide anything, he would not have lied. I would not tolerate a person I am committed to give their numbers out to other girls, unless it were girls I trusted. The way I can tell if my man is lying is by the facial expression he gave when I caught him in a lie. Remember what his reactions were- did he act normal when you asked him the 1st time? Facial expressions? Tone of his voice? If it was just a friend, how come he hid it from you? I hope this helps a little. Good luck with everything!

Answer 6

Sounds to like you're more into this relationship than he really is. Boys will be boys, nature of a man is to impregnate as many women as he possibly can in one lifetime. You already have lost your trust in him, no need to go on pretending like it's going to work. Face the reality, if she was just a fried he would not be lying about it. If he really cared for you, he'd involve you in his life. But, I can already see that you won't listen and stay with him, because that's the way it usually goes, have respect for yourself and walk away gracefully.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It's not alright that he lied but it's also not right that you're paranoid about him lying. you said that he never used to lie, that it was just one time he lied because he didn't want to upset you. He messed up but his heart's in the right place. find a way to forgive him.
I think it's fine for guys in a serious relationship to give their number's out to girls if their just friends. he is intiled to have friends who are girls and be in a serious relationship too.

Answer 9

You can give him another chance if you want, but it sounds to me that he doesn't take your relationship all that seriously. He obviously doesn't respect you enough to even tell you who he gives his phone number to. If it were me,(assuming that I we're a girl) i'd want to at least know if he gave his number to another girl, even if it was just a friend.

And besides, do you really want to continue a relationship where there's always that doubt in the back of your head? Wondering if he's cheating on you?

Answer 10

It is hard to believe and trust a person who has not been truthful. If your relationship is serious he should not be so free with his number. Maybe you need to relax you relationship with him and start getting more boy friends and talking to them a lot. He might see things differently then.

Answer 11

Eventually I would start to believe them again, but they would have to earn the trust back. If he is lying about this girl, he might be cheating. That is something you need to start thinking about how you are going to deal with.