If you were to meet someone exceptional, smart, funny, friendly, nice, well-mannered, cute but the only drawback was that he/she drank ocassionally and smoked, would you still pursue him/her? For the long term that is. Would you try to change them?
2007-03-25 19:25:21 · 7 answers · asked by Free the monkey in you! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drinking about 2-3 times a week and I mean beer and stuff. Smoking about half a pack a day.
2007-03-25 19:33:18 · update #1
Excellent answers guys! Keep 'em coming!
2007-03-25 19:35:46 · update #2
Never go into a relationship thinking you can change a person. Accept the person as they are and hope the annoying habits go away but be prepared if they don't. You have to decide if you want to live with it.
2007-03-25 19:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by kgee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would pursue them everyone has flaws and no i wouldnt try to change them.Ask your self if you can tolerate the smoking and drinking for the long term.And look at how often they drink and how much because it could cause you more heartache in the long run than the good qualities are worth.But myself i wont live with someone who drinks and i dont allow it in my home.
2007-03-25 19:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the drinking and smoking was only occassionly I could over look that. Even if the smoking was daily, that is overlooked.. I would wonder though if his drinking was everyday unless it was just like one glass of wine with dinner.
2007-03-25 19:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.
first off, they're used to their small habits.
you can't change them as a person,
only try and change their opinions for you
to negotiate with.
I wouldnt try and change them.
just let them know that you're not too comfortable
with what they do.
I wouldn't back down. Just let
them have their fun.
2007-03-25 19:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love isnt about meeting someone--and taking away the things that you dont like about him/her---i am sure that he/she thinks there are things you need to change about you--but relationships are about accepting each other for each others flaws--if the main thing you are looking for is what you can change in the other person--perhaps you need to sit back--lookat yourself--and see if there are things about yourself that people would change--would you change them if they told you to--
i dated someone--all he wanted to do is say --i am going to quit listening to the music i listened to--he didnt like horror movies so i couldnt watch anymore if we were going to be together--he then tells me that when i got paid that he was going to put my money in the bank and i wasnt going to waste it on anything he didn approve of--needless to say--i dumped him--do you want to be dumped for nitpicking him/her----or you going to love him/her for who they are--as long as he isnt a 24 hour a day drunk and an abusive prick then whats wrong
2007-03-25 19:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by charles o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smoking is nasty, drinking is ok. i wouldnt date a smoker or waste my time trying to change a man.
2007-03-25 19:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by ytrewq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. i mean c'mon.
2007-03-25 19:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by the lost sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋