Anyone else get panic attacks when thinking about death?

Question

So my father died when I was six. I didn't understand what death was. I knew you could die but always thought it had to be by like a gun or something. I never knew it was because of sickness etc. So sometime around the sixth grade I really came to terms with mortality and realized I would too die. I remember coming home from school and sitting in a corner and only seeing darkness.....a finish....NOTHING......I still get that way even today and I'm almost 30. I think maybe I just need to have a baby and that will make me stop thinking about it. But lately, living away from family half a world away I find myself depressed almost thinking about it all the time. I look at something beautiful like an orchid and think about death...my death....never seeing my family again...being separated from my husband....wandering in a dark sky with no end....infinite darkness forever and ever and ever and thats where I start to cry and some times hyperventilate sort of. I can't shake the thoughts.wat2do

Answer 1

My wife gets panic attacks and depression exactly like you describe, only she doesn't really know what causes it, and she has no control over it. She went to the doctor and they gave her a prescription. She is getting better now. Maybe you should see what a doctor says about it?

Answer 2

No, i do not fear death but i want to say goodbye and have a will when that time comes...im 11 btw but the thought of death is a reassuring thought for me..i'll have a clear understanding when i die..my questions will be answered and i shall rest...but when ur about to die u see a bright light..i think religion helps with this but i idolize Satan is some way (don't report me for this im just expressing myself) i adapted death as a good thing when i began to listen to bands such as MCR, Chicosci, Typecast and Panic at the Disco

so maybe u should listen to those kind of music....

Answer 3

Not me; I divorced my husband and went through no depression at all. In all my few relationships I've always been the one breaking up and as sorry as I could feel, I never got depressed. Once I make up my mind and leave a man I have no regrets and I don't care what he does for he's out of my life for good. I think some women just lack confidence, that's why they get depressed over a break up. Life goes on, no matter what, and everything comes to an end sooner or later so, no need to get depressed.

Answer 4

I completely understand you. I have felt the same way since I was a child, but it´s not something I´ve mentioned to many people, just to my parents and one friend, and I realized that it´s not something very common. I mean, everybody feels fear or worry about death, but they certainly didn´t get the same feeling as I did. It´s more related to "realizing about concepts such as the infinite or the nothing itself", whenever I think about the infinite wether relating time or space (the time with no-ending) I may start having a pannick attack, and I feel so bad, hyperventilate, have to stand up and feel an incredible panick for a while. It´s a feeling I just can´t stand, and I never heard someone describing this same feeling. Fortunately, I have had this for all of my life, but I never did anything about it. The good thing is that it just last for a while, and when it finishes I feel better and don´t worry much because it´s like I see things in other way, but it´s so painfull when the pannick attack strikes. It´s like you can´t stand the feeling. Excuse me for my grammer because english is not my mother tongue. Hope it has helped.

Answer 5

Take heart friend, Death isn't an end. If you are an Athiest or don't believe in an afterlife, I can see why you would feel that way. Maybe you should look into a faith, many people who fear death find comfort in it because they then have a concept of what happens next.
I myself am LDS and we believe in not only an afterlife and heaven, but a concept of eternal family where husband, wife, and children can be sealed for Time and all Eternity so that not even death or any other power in Heaven or Hell can seperate them.
It is for this reason that I do not fear death. I am sealed to my spouse, and when we have children they will be sealed to us as well and we will be a family both in this life and the next.

If that's not for you, other faiths have other beliefs that may help you cope with your fears of death. Find the one that gives you the most comfort and the one in which you find the most truth. A fear of death is normal, though amendable.
God Bless and Good luck.

Answer 6

Hi,
There is this guide by anxiety expert Joe Barry , he has taught thousands of people to be panic free without any medication using a revolutionary new technique, http://www.panicaway.co.nr , its really a great guide , it should help you get rid of panic attacks forever in a few days

Answer 7

my fiancee, suffers from panic attacks, hers is triggered by stress, and trying to do to much.(everyone has a different trigger) its quite a common medical condition and more people have it than what you think. i know in australia the federal government has pumped alot of money into public health. go see your doctor, and sit down with him and see if you can sort out some sort of mental health plan. also try go to the library and get out a book called "Living with It" . it goes through what actually a panic attack is and how to handle it etc etc. it was written by a person who actually suffered from them and apparently is quite accurate, and reccomended reading buy many pyscologists

hope this helps

Answer 8

I get that way too. I've been diagnosed with depression. I've noticed the happier I am the less I think about it, but then again maybe I'm just happier because I think about it less. I recommend to try focusing on what you like about life right now and less about what you don't like in life, like the fact that all things die.
I would also not have a baby to try to "fix" your problem. Having a child to solve your problem would not be fair to that child.

Answer 9

i think you need to talk to someone about your feelings seems like your still stuck in the past as a 6 year old, a councilor can help and even your husband hopefully should be a good person to talk to maybe if not you should consider moning back home and being around you family. please deal with these feeling weather you think you will follow through or not before bringing a child into the world. take care of yourself inter and outer first.

Answer 10

You know, it not good to think too much about death, true everyone is going to die, but think this. its the end of life, as long as you are satified with your life, you can probrably die with out many worrys. Everyone is going to die anyways, when you are dead, you wont really be around to care about much... everyone has to deal with thier view of death somehow because well everyone is going to experiance it, you are born to die, death is just another part of life one must accept, just like childhood or having a mid-life crisis, when one matures, they must experiance new things and come to terms with them. Like for example, the transition from childhood to adulthood, being a teen is obviously very stressfull, since everything you once knew is being turned upsidedown, the warm and friendly world around you is showing its true colors, turning into a jumbled mess of cruelty, hardship and happiness all in one. Many teens are overwhelmed much the same way you are by the thought of such an extreme situation, some snap and kill themselves unfotuneatly, similar to your panic attacks. I can understand that you had a tramatic ordeal with death and because of that you are more sensitive on the subject of death. however, if death really is such a worry to you, just try to live each day to the fullest, spend time with the ones you love, make new friends, strengthen existing friendships, try to make it so that you wont have any regrets if you suddenly die in a car acident the next day or something, as long as you are happy and you are satisfied with life, i guess doing that can take at least some of the weight off your shoulders. Me (17), personally, Ive thought about death once in a while, I personally think its not too much of a deal, you die=you die, its the end, like a story, the end has nothing past it, also you cant change the past, "whatever happens, happens" so I think that, well... if it happens, it happens, it sucks that I cant live after that, but theres not much I can do about it, its nearly all a sense of sadness and not much of a sense of dread... it might be because I am nieve, it might be because I havent experainced something like you, having a loved one dying when you were little, something like that cant be fully understood untill one actually experainces it, but thats how I think of death... I guess in the end, all I can do for you is give advice and say my part, How you think about death is up to you in the end, and whatever you think, remember that others have to think about death in their life as well, it helps to talk to others like your friends or your loved ones about such a thing, and maybe with all the support form those around you, you can change your reaction to the subject of death so you wouldnt be so traumatized every time you think of it.
I wish you luck on dealing with this subject