help me with my past mistakes.?

Question

i modelled, showing off alot of my bod.. never nude, but i would say its a bit racy. it didnt turn out as i had thought, i was easily exploited.. anyways these images were used mainly on the web.. these images are no longer allowed to be used so they have been taken down.. but i am nervous that people may find out about this and disown me. i feel like a whore, even tho i never did anything dirty. i seem like a whore, the way i was protrayed. i am always scared that this will come out either with someone finding a pic, or me bumping into someone who knows.. i dont know how to handle the situation.

Answer 1

People often sweat the load about things that cannot be changed. Find goals for your future plans, and get after them and don't look back. Should someone ever question it, tell them it is none of their business. You owe nobody any explanation for anything you've done.If YOU think it was a mistake, learn from it and GO on with life's goals.

Answer 2

Don't sweat it.

Mistakes are made. Tomorrow is a new day, and if then follow mistakes, they will be 'new' mistakes... That's all.

Aside from family members, you need not be concerned. And even with that, you need only let yourself know first, that is, don't avert or deny... Then address them. After this, you have done all that can be done. The rest is on them to work with... That is not your fault thereafter. Because everybody makes mistakes. Everybody. Some of ours gets known, some does not.

Now, get this, people are evolving and move ahead in much more clear ways than you might believe nowadays and few are there indeed who are so retro as to "disown" you for casting nude pictures...

Disown you?:-- Maybe that would be the only price you pay in fact, to have the likes of such people well away and out of your life... And that would be good -- to disclose such enemy in waiting and hiding, see?

If someone is so limited thinking and being as this, rest assured if they do not disown you by reason of casting nude pictures, they would as surely do so in some other instance that could truly be of harm to you when you may be innately weak of esteem and dignity.

Right now, you are considerably strong. You have honesty; and that's integrity...

Answer 3

You made mistakes. You are human. These days it seems like every other woman is showing off her body so you are not alone. I heard that the women of the freshman class at Harvard put out magazine with all of their pictures in the nude. Soon, nudity and sexual poses will be old hat. Try to simply accept your mistakes as a learning experience. If someone you know should see your pictures, just face it with , "Yeah, I did that. It was a stupid thing to do, but I learned my lesson."

Answer 4

"To err is human, to forgive, divine."

Sweetie if you are living a good and decent life now, chances are nothing will happen. There really is nothing you can do at this point. You cannot really anticipate anything regarding your old photos.

You already have admitted you were gullible and made mistakes. If anyone, by some long shot, saw a photo and recognized you, just tell them that. You were gullible, made a mistake but that it was long ago. You owe them no more explanation unless it is your significant other. You should have no secrets from each other by then so he would be protective of you instead of angry.

You have to forgive yourself dear. You say you did photos and no more. Well that is not so bad. It is funny how we happily forgive everyone around us for amazing things but we will never offer ourselves the same forgiveness we offer the mailman!

One of the most effective ways to bleed our spirit-energy away is to impale ourselves on the twin swords of blame and non-forgiveness. Therefore, the ability to forgive ourselves is essential to our soul’s growth.

Forgiveness originally meant “to return good treatment for ill usage,” which reminds one of the beautiful saying: "Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the hand that has crushed it."

We are all susceptible to human failings. We’ve all pointed the finger of blame at ourselves and others and trotted out an inner perfectionist to bludgeon ourselves with guilt and shame. We have crushed the delicate violet of another’s feelings and trampled our own under the heels of unrealistic demands.

Our souls are no strangers to forgiveness, for they have basked in the benediction of Allah's forgiveness for eternity. Difficulty in forgiving means that we have slipped into our human heads or guts and are no longer centered in the ground of our being, which is unconditional love.

By becoming aware of the skid away from your higher self, you can move back into your heart. Even though it may sound too good to be true, you can return to your heart by merely asking to do so and accepting that it is done. .

It really is just that simple. If you go to church, speak to God. I found that walking by the ocean cleansed me. It is old earth magic to walk in the out of doors and feel the sun and wind wash you clean. You have hurt no one and you have no intention of doing this again.

Forgive yourself and move on.

Answer 5

If you explain to people why you did what you did most people would understand. A lot of times it's not as bad as you think it is. Sometimes it just takes time for people to forget or get pushed back far enough in everyone's minds that it won't even matter anymore. The people that really care about you won't care much about it anyways, and those that want to judge you by this, don't need to be in your life anyways.

Answer 6

I know firsthand that it is harder to forgive ourselves than it is for other to do so. Just consider it part of your past. It was a learning experience. You can use it to teach other young people that may be headed the same direction. Use your life lesson in a positive manner. No one can judge you-we all have faults and skeletons. Love yourself!!

Answer 7

everyone has a past and have done things they regret. if you are honest to the people in your life who are important to you, they will respect the fact that they have heard this from you and not somebody else. for everyone else out there who you dont really care about or know, what does it matter what they think!
people will always have an opinion about someone else. dont let this be the thing that lives with you getting you down, forget it, its history!

Answer 8

You have learned a valuable lesson. Some of the things you do in life simply cannot be undone.You have to live with it.

So, pack it up, put it in the back of your mind, and move on. And you are NOT a whore!

Good luck.

Answer 9

Remember one phrase and repeat it to yourself as often as you need. "I am not my past." Don't define yourself by what has been, but what you are. People are never only defined by their actions. Look at how far you've come and keep looking forward with your head held proud. You got out of a situation that bothered you and that took guts. If anyone finds out, you don't owe anyone any explanations. It was your past and not who you are now.
If someone petty tries to use it against you ignore them. People like that make asses out of themselves just by not shutting up. Stand tall and don't be frightened of your struggles they made you who you are today.

Answer 10

They have been taken of the web, and in time people won't even think about them. You have nothing to be ashamed off and what is past is past and really you do not have to justify your actions to anyone.