I'm so afraid that my 7 mo. old daughter will grow up and think of me as a loser. I didn't have money to finish college and I work two jobs, at a Chiropractic office and at night at a grocery store.
I have this fear that she will think I am the biggest loser. I love her so much and want so much more for her. I don't want her to grow up and be like me. How do I ensure my daughter will love me for who I am? Is there such a thing as unconditional love?
2007-03-25 19:06:42 · 16 answers · asked by Peanut Butter 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Dear Peanut,
First of all, You need to start to realize how worthy you are!!! Please do not confuse having a diploma with being worthy. Or not having one and being a looser. Maybe, your life was not as you had planned at first, but that DOES NOT mean you are a looser!!! I can´t emphasize that enough! Seriously, please think about that! We all make mistakes, have good and bad days!
Be a good person to YOurself! To those who are around. Be kind, respecting, because real respect is that what we feel for people who respect who we are! respected that is forced, threatened is not real respect. It is fear.
Trust your daughter! All kids say mean and good things through their life. But trust her judging she is seeing you working to support her. She is seeing you caring for her. And she will admire you for that. But first you must admire yourself. Make a list. Write it down. The qualities you have. If you can´t find any that only means that you are being toooo harsh on yourself! And create yourself goals. Little ones. It is never late to learn new things. Share what you know with those who don´t know it. We all have things to learn. Life is about exchanges and you need to realize you have plenty to give to the world!
A winner, in my opinion, is the person who wakes up everyday and is still able learn. Who does not take oneself so seriously as to thinking one learned it all, and that the days don´t count anymore. Everyday is a new day and it is the possibility of doing something worthy.
And remember you never know how one little gesture, or one single word might affect the next person.
2007-03-26 04:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is such a thing as unconditional love and it almost always occurs between a parent and a child.
Money doesn't mean anything to a young child and chances are you're not going to be in the same financial situation when your daughter becomes a teenager (when kids start thinking they know EVERYTHING).
Love your daughter, provide for her the best you can and you will never be considered a "loser". Personally, I'd call you a winner already because you're trying so hard to provide for your child.
2007-03-26 02:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're doing the most you can though, so theres no reason really for her to think badly of you. If you were selling drugs and had some lame excuse then I can totally see her thinking of you as a loser. But it sounds to me like you have decent jobs. And two jobs on top of that. So I wouldn't worry about it. She is only 7 months old and who knows where you could be in a few years from now. Maybe at a higher type of job?
2007-03-26 02:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by NylaEla 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a good mom. Spend time with her and love her and teach her. Don't cater to her because you want her to like you. If you do these things she will always love and cherish you. Think back to your childhood and the moms you thought were the greatest - was it because they had the most money and best educations? I'll bet not! I'll bet it was the ones who were supportive of their kids and were cheerful and fun. Also...ask yourself...are there any families out there that have good jobs that are still in trouble? You betcha. The money does not help have a good family. It does make things more comfortable, but I've known a number of 'poor rich kids' who had TONS of things but were always alone in their rooms because they had no one to spend time with them. Would a 10 yo boy rather get a new expensive ball glove and have no one to play with, or would he rather get a used glove and have a parent out there tossing balls around? You know the answer to that one! That is true in every situation. Don't worry about your lack of education - just be a good, sweet mommy.
2007-03-26 02:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will love you for who you are. You sound like a wonderful mother. You are working two jobs in order to care for her. She is not going to love you more or less because of college. The things she will grow to love are how you relate to her. Spend time with her, play with her, read to her, hold her. I am sure when she is an adult she will admire your strength. It takes a lot of energy to hold down two jobs and raise a daughter.
2007-03-26 10:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely a thing as unconditional love! She's your daughter. She will love you no matter what you do. You're showing her you're a responsible mom and you love her by working 2 jobs to take care of her. Talk to her when she's older about her life goals and maybe you can do something to help her reach those goals
2007-03-26 02:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by ஐღKellyღஐ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur daughter don't love u for the amount of money u have or if u went to college. if anything she will she u as her hero raising her and working to job to make sure she has her needs. that sounds like a hero to me u are doing a wonderful job. i can tell u i have 2 children 2 and 3 and they don't look down at me for how far i went through school or how much money have they love me for who i am and for the great mom that i am for them. and ur daughter is the same way if anything u are showing her how strong u are and make her want to work as hard as mommy does for her for her kids in the future.i am sure u are a wonderful mom to ur baby
2007-03-26 03:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by murt1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will love you no matter what you do or where you work. You people have to start to realize that money is NOT everything, but a STABLE caring loving environment is so much better for a child than worrying about how much f**kin money you make. at 7 months, your daughter cares about food and sleep, get a grip and be a positive role model and stand true and be honourable, sheesh......
2007-03-26 02:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by vancup2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont you dare worry about that. Do you realize that parents can be the scum of the earth, and there children STILL think the best of them. My step sisters mother was so mean to them. She had cock roches, was dirty, EVEN knew my sister was raped at 10 years old, and didnt turn the guy in because they were "friends". And my sisters STILL love there mom.
You are working hard to support her. It doesnt matter what you do. She is going to love you like you are the smartest person in the world. Even when she talks bad to you, or about you when she is a teen, take it from me, they ALWAYS stick up for you if ANYONE else says it! Good luck and your doing a great job!
2007-03-26 02:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter loves you and always will. You are not a loser you are a hard worker (2 jobs and full time mom). Just love her and protect her.
2007-03-26 03:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋