GUYS: ever get changing feelings with a girl?

Question

me and my bf have been on and off for about 6 months and we just took a long break because we go to diff schools and dont see each other that much and neither one of us have our own cars yet, so we cant see each other whenever we want. the first time we dated we eventually didnt see each other that much and he claims that he gets all excited when im there and he wants everything to work out, but then when i leave, he gets an uneasy feeling, not of jealousy, but just a feeling that somethings not gonna work out, so then he changes his mind and says that we shouldnt be together bc he doesnt think its gonna work out. so we recently got back together but he again changed his mind and i saw him for the first time in 2months and he again was excited to see me and says he missed me all these months but then when i left he called me and said he got that feeling again and he thinks we should just save ourselves the pain and end it. but so do any of u ever get this FEELING? and if so, what is it

also, the last time we dated was for 4 months and we hardly saw each other. we would hang out and then not see each other for like 3 weeks and then see each other and go another 5 weeks. so something like that. and we havent seen each other in 2 months, so i think its just that we never see each other, but he says that he doesnt get this feeling with any other girls he's dated...so i wanna know how we can fix this problem...if its just spending more time together or what? if anyone has had this happen to them or felt this way before, please do explain it to me, cuz i dont really understand it.

Answer 1

This is precisely why most long distance relationships don't work. One party or the other...especially if you two are young .....start wondering if the other can hold on till you see one another again or does the pressure to meet new people take over. And its really hard on the two people involved. Think about his reactions...they make perfect sense. When he hasn't seen you and you meet him after several months he is excited because it looks to him like you did not go and meet any one else since you chose to come see him. But once you two part, then the anxiety begins again because his fear is that while you two are apart that you will meet someone else at school. So to spare himself the pain he is saying lets just give up on this because it can't work. So, what am I suggesting? You two need to hash this out. How difficult it is to have a long distance relationship is going to largely depend on what and how you resolve each others concerns about it all. And you may both come to the conclusion that for now it is best for you to part company so that you both can still have the whole school experience with the thought that when you are both finished school that you try again. Or if after discussing it at length you think that you two can make a long distance go of it then go for it as long as you both understand the risks involved. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like he only feels secure when you're in his presence. You don't want to be in a relationship like that. It will eventually take a toll on your emotions. It's understandable how he feels but he can't decide each month if you're together or broken up. That's not fair. Maybe you should both wait until you have a car or try to find something common to do on the weekend to see each other more. Sound s like the emotions and commitment are there but relationships require time as well. Remain friends and wait until the time is right to see if your heart is still there. The best thing that can happen is you develop a deeper friendship and genuinely get to know one another.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

he's being indecisive and unless you give him an ultimatum, he will not change. the guy takes it for granted that you always let him have his way. do something about it.

Answer 5

someone got a commitment issue