OK before i begin, i truley know "i can really only answer this question" but i really do need serious help.
i am getting married and the only people i have standing up are my 4 little kids a nephew and god daughter. plus the usual MH AND BM.
ok my aunt who has been hounding me to be in the wedding keeps forcing herself to be in it. "telling me i will not have any help come the wedding day, 'which is true' because i would have to get myself,4 girls dressed,hair and makeup done on my own. because my mom has past away and my maid of honor has to get ready herself plus get her kids ready. but the reason i dont want to chose her is because i know she will try to run the show and make it her day! plus she is already telling me how things r suppose to be. Now of course anyone would say "hey back off this is my day,not yours." but honestly that is not the person i am, and its a lot easier said then done!
then another part of me feels ok we were close and she my moms only sister.
help !!!
2007-03-25 18:45:36 · 5 answers · asked by Guillermo M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Take some time out, make your aunt sit in front of you and tell that you love her. Say firmly, but politely what you think is going to happen if you let things go her way and remind that it is "your big day"........
2007-03-25 18:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by sandeep i 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason this brought me to tears! I completely understand your position....but she's your mom's only sister and you're Mom's in heaven wishing she could be there! I think you Aunt knows this and wants to help you, not so much for her own benefit, but because your mom isn't getting the chance! Involve her, but set the limits....I had to do this with my own mother....that's just how Mom's are..and your Aunt sounds no different! Get the girls ready, then have her come in and help you with your dress and last minute touches on your hair and make up...this will be one on one time for the two of you right before you walk down the aisle. Then have her escorted (in place of your mom) and when she comes in to help her give her a corsage or flower to wear. Even if she gets on your nerves, you'll be glad you did this!
2007-03-26 17:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your aunt to be your personal atendant and let her tend to you and the little ones. Maybe she could be seated in your mothers spot at the wedding.
2007-03-26 17:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a person to help you and give her the place of honor ; ask her to sit in your mother's place
2007-03-26 02:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before things progress any further,,tell her exactly what you just told all of us.that you appreciate all she does,but it's your special day...etc.
2007-03-26 10:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋