A long time ago, I met this girl and we kinda got it on. I really liked her and she liked me, so we did the kind of things with each other, kinky things, that you would never even tell your best friend. We grew apart and she moved away and I lost contact with her and I sometimes even forgot about her for months on end. But the other day my best mate invited me to his house to introduce me to his new gf and guess who it was... HER! I couldn't believe it, all the things we did came flooding back to me. She was the one who's idea it was, so that means that my mate probably does them too. I don't even want to think about it. Anyway, we pretended not to know each other and had a terrible evening, the excuse I used was that I had a fever. I need to break them up, she'll tell him what we did together eventually, and I'll never be able to look him in the face again. How do I break them up?
2007-03-25 18:29:14 · 15 answers · asked by Modus Operandi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you are thinking is exactly the role of that girl. What is your motive in breaking them up? To win the girl again just because of the titillating thoughts of the past?
Leave them alone and find the right one for you.
2007-03-25 18:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by september 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to break them up? What made you think she's gonna tell your best mate about the two of you? Give the girl some credit. She's not that dumb; after all it's her reputation that's on the line here...not yours. The kinky things you did together (in the past) are feathers in your hat - be thankful for that. Now its your best mate earning those feathers. This is really none of your business now. So cool it. Live and let live.
2007-03-25 18:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Inday 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this is your best mate, and as you say, she will eventually tell him. You should be honest up front and tell him that you felt funny after seeing her after such a long time and now you want to tell him that you two used to date. I would leave out the details of your intimate relationship. What happens between two consenting adults should stay there. Be a gentleman and a good friend.
2007-03-25 18:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. thats pretty dramatic.
u cant meddle. sumhow ur friend will find out if u do. chances r if the things u did r as crazy as u say, then she probably wont telll him. shes probably embarrised by it too. i think u should just avoid being around her; if u have to be around her, just talk to her in private and tell her this is uncomfortable for u. but it really depends on how much your friend likes her. u just have to make a desicion between your best but, or sum girl u barely knew.
good luck.
2007-03-25 18:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by dazed and confused 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lol Small world isnt it I wouldnt break them up your the one who has the most to lose if you try. Be honest talk to your friend dont do it to try and break them up but just to let him know you two were together. They may break up over it but just be honest and dont play any games. Hell respect you for it or mybe hate you who know but honesty is the best way to go.
2007-03-25 18:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't. You tell your friend, now, that you messed around (forget the details) before she has a chance to. Who knows- maybe he's into that stuff? If you really liked her, he probally does too, and its selfish to break up a happy couple because its weird for you.
2007-03-25 18:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by paintmeblue719 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT EVER try and break someone up. its gunna come strait back to you. trust me.
look. he deserves to know if she's going out with him. he might get mad but should definitly get over it, and if he doesnt hes jealousof your past and isnt a forgiving person- you dont need someone like that anyways.
2007-03-25 18:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by tortl :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont' even try breaking them up, she belongs to him now and he only has your left overs so why worry. If you tell your friend you use to go with her he ;probably will break up with her anyway.
2007-03-25 18:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't break them up, but you DO tell your friend you dated her before SHE tells him. That'd be the killer of the relationship.
Let your friend figure out what you 2 may/may not have done, don't tell any details, just say, "I dated her..I shoulda told ya..I was weirded out, my bad, sorry". Say NO MORE.
2007-03-25 18:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by mcm5274 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow some balls. You did the acts, live with the consequences. If nothing you did can be said aloud in the light, then remember that feeling of true guilt and shame and don't be a sick perv again.
2007-03-25 18:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by bla 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋