then this other guy comes into the picture and steals my heart away. we got married and now after a few months we're getting divorced. the other guy's been there for me through all this. he loves me unconditional. he treats me with respect. our love making is out of this world. a woman should be thrilled to have this man. should be honored. he's puts me on this pedalstool that i don't belong on. it hurts me to no end that for whatever reason i can't return the same love. he deserves to be love as much as he loves me. we run to each other when we have a problem and can talk to each other. there's something misslng with us, but what? i enjoy being with him. he loves me with all his heart but i hold him at arms length. what's the matter with me? how do i refall in love with him?
2007-03-25 18:25:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you may already be in love with him, just not in the way you are used to. Because you had a two year relationship those "butterflies" may have already faded and it has become something more of a partnership where you support each other. When you said the other guy stole your heart away... that seems to me like it was the passionate love , and not unconditional love. Is it the passionate love that you want to feel for your unconditional loving guy? Maybe you don't love him in that way because it is a long lasting love and not just a love that burns out in a couple months.
Also, it's possible that you are afraid to fall in love so quickly again, because you now realize that the kind of love you had with the guy you married doesn't last. But don't worry, with this guy, you have something to back it up with.
What I suggest is that you open up to your amazing guy. I find that when I become vulnerable to a guy, he reacts in ways that give me those "in love" feelings. And it will help you to build that unconditional love for him because he will begin to understand you in ways that nobody else has. Tell him all your secrets. All your vices. All your mistakes and everything you are proud of yourself for. When you feel like he really understands you, I believe you will feel that everlasting love that he has for you.
Hope this helps!
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2016-10-19 22:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acceptance and forgiveness...
Accept that you deserve something better than what you had in the other relationship... and also you have to accept the fact that theres a person right in front of you who loves you more than heaven itself...
Forgive yourself for the things you have done to this man that loves you and forgive yourself for being a fool...
Forgive and accept the faults that you have done and you'll finally see that you can love this person for who he is and you will have more than you ever derserve which is the right thing.... ^_^
2007-03-25 18:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋