I know the general rule is to invite anyone who needs to be at the rehearsal and to invite out of town guests. I am having a wedding of 300 people and about 200 of them are "out of town" (we have large families spread ALL over the country. Do I really have to invite the Out-of-town guests?
Also, all of my bridesmaids & groomsmen are bringing dates to the wedding (I have a wedding party of about 30 right now including ushers, juniors bridesmaids, etc.) Should their dates be invited to the dinner as well since I can't imagine what they'd be doing a forgein city by themselves?
Thank for your input ahead of time!
2007-03-25 18:18:37 · 9 answers · asked by Nicole 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
With that many people, your rehearsal dinner could turn into a second reception! While it may be the polite thing to do to invite everyone, realistically, it would be a nightmare to make dinner plans for all those people.
Also, I would guess that many of your guests don't expect to be invited to a rehearsal dinner, especially if they're aware that there are so many others traveling to the wedding. Most will be sensitive to the fact that you're planning a wedding and you're having a reception after the wedding which is expensive enough.
Stick with your bridal party and their dates / family members, and your immediate family. 30 is a pretty manageable number.
A really nice thing to do for your other guests is to provide them with a list of recommednations for restaurants in the area, and perhaps the names and room numbers (if available) of your other wedding guests staying in the same hotel. That way, they can get together on their own. Chances are your extended family members will enjoy the chance to get together on their own, but also welcome the fact they're not obligated to attend an organized dinner if they're tired from traveling and just want to chill out.
If you're doing guest bags or boxes for the hotel rooms, you can include your recommendations with that. Even if you're not doing the welcome baskets/bags, have a preprinted welcome letter at the front desk for the clerk to hand to your guest as they check in.
2007-03-25 18:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We were out of town guests, and family, at a large wedding but the rehearsal dinner was kept for just the people in the wedding. It was fine because it gave all the rest of us time to catch up, and rest up, with other members we hadn't seen on our own terms instead of drawing the rehearsal dinner away from what it was, a rehearsal dinner and thanking everyone in the wedding.
They also had a set thing planned for all the out of town guests that was separate, it was simple, just mentioned that if they wanted to all go out to dinner together what time to meet in the lobby since the bridal party was doing their thing.
As far as the dates go, I'm not sure, you can ask the attendants what they watch.
2007-03-25 18:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to invite every out of town guest. Perhaps just out of town relatives. And if that number is still too big, then don't worry about it.
As far as the wedding party and everyone involved in the ceremony/rehearsal goes, if their dates are from out of town, etiquette dictates you should invite them also.
2007-03-26 01:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only invite the people who need to be at the rehearsal and their dates. I would not invite all out of town guests...although perhaps you can provide them with a list of nice places to go for dinner in your town.
2007-03-26 01:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree absolutely with the first post except for one thing: I wouldn't have the dates of the wedding party there. because if you invite them, the actual family members that came out of town could be hurt ot feel slited.
It's not like the rehersal will be a really long time just a couple hours to rehearse and eat. Do like the first post said and put together some recommendations for what the people can do or can go to eat.
so it would be your wedding party and immediate family only - that will make it more intimate like it should be :-)
GodBless!
2007-03-25 19:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No one I know just invites out of town people, just out of hand. You would invite the wedding party, their spouses, and your immediate families.
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2016-10-19 22:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your out of town guets will find something to do to entertain themselves that night you don't have to invite all those people. If you want you can provide them with a list of restaurants, entertainment, and activities and they'll be alright, don't give yourself an unwanted headache
2007-03-25 18:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by missC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have only the family and wedding party there
2007-03-25 19:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋