is it wrong to date outside your race but not want to have mixed kids?

Question

my friend has never dated in her race.she is black lives in a mostly white town and has never dated a black guy she says their okay to date but she would have to think hard about marrying or having kids with one cause she don't know if she would want to be the mother of a mixed child and all her boyfriends wanted kids with her and to get married i think she might be a little boderline racist cause of her father who doesn't live in the same state he was a racist her mom said she shouldn't date interracially if she feels that way a few of our friends are like that to but with black and hispanic guys and im just wondering why do people do this?

Answer 1

You risk falling in love with whomever you date.

If you have a strong belief in not mixing races in marriage AND your assumed destination is LOVE, MARRIAGE, and CHILDREN, then you should not date outside your race.

Answer 2

What are her reasons for not wanting a mixed race child? Does she think the child will get teased or is it just because her parents are racist? There are many places in the U.S. that a person can go to escape racism. If she really loves this man of another race, and they wish to be together, they could move to one of those areas and their child would grow up normally. It all depends on how much the potential mother and father are willing to sacrifice for a child. I think that love has no boundaries and that race doesn't matter at all when it comes to the quality of the person, so we can't judge based on the color of skin.

I'm not sure why people are so insistent on judging people because of the color of their skin, but it is something that obviously happens. I think it could be because our society revolves so much around what a person looks like physically. Just think of your own standards about people you date. You would probably be quick to say yes to an attractive person when they asked you out, but if it was a normal looking or unattractive person you would be less likely. But who would probably end up being better in a relationship? I believe the reason people behave like this is simply because we put too much importance in appearances and not enough in the quality of the person.

What makes us happy in the end? A good person or an attractive person? Unfortunately, I believe many people forget to ask themselves this when the get into relationships.

Answer 3

in case you fall in love with a woman that happens to be of yet another race or ethnicity and you have little ones of blended race there isn't something incorrect with that. in case you like a blended race new child in basic terms for the sake of having one, so as that the new child will on no account be "black" in basic terms such as then you definitely it rather is self hate new child. No way around it.

Answer 4

we will never know why people feel as they do , but your girl
has some issues that she need to deal with, you cant have
our cake and then say you dont want the ice cream that goes
with. it dont work like that. her mother is right if you can
date and love a man but cant have his children then why
are you dating him in the first place. i personally beliive
that mixed children are the most beautiful children to me
i mean all children are beautiful.

Answer 5

your friend is a dummy. what is she dating them for then? sex money stupid reasons. that is like a lot of people they have a sick and twisted fantasy of what its like with someone of another ethnicity but when sh!t gets real they dont wanna deal with it. that is racist to say. i'll date you but not have your offspring because they'll be mixed well you know what stop having his white d!ck up in you than.

Answer 6

It's wrong to date outside your race.but to say that she doesn't want children it sounds kinda racist to me.then she should not be dating outside her race..

Answer 7

No it's not wrong to date outside your race....ok