Depression why does it happen to me everyday?

Question

Well I'm back to these old questions. I've been going back and fourth with my depression. At times I think its gone but then it comes back. What should I do it seems that I can't get rid of it. I don't think I have the will power to get better and feel better and even stay better. I know the reasons why I'm so depressed but I can't seem to stop myself from going into it. I've done some rotten things to myself such as self harm. And it all comes back to my depression. I just want to give up and give in and say I'm done and maybe I should just stay depressed unitl it kills me. Should I just quit trying to find my happyness ever again and stay with my same old depression?

Answer 1

What you need to do is go to a therapist......

Answer 2

Have you ever heard the term, "A watched kettle never boils." ? I think it applies here, to an extent. You seem to want out of your depressed state so badly that it in turn seems even further away. This is because your conscious mind is fixated on becoming your version of 'normal' again. You are probably worrying, wondering why it's taking so long to feel like your self again, right? That's ok! The drive to feel 'normal' again is very much a part of the upswing of a depressive cycle (the first link to a website below that goes into a LOT of detail as to what a depression cycle is, what causes them, and what a person can do about them). The second link also goes into a lot of detail about depression period--definition, description, causes, symptoms, diagnosis, treatment, and alternative depression/ bipolar disorder/ manic depression.

It's important to remember that depression is very common now days, and is undertood much much better than a few years ago. There have been breakthroughs in understanding it, and treating the symptoms, and helping those who must endure it. Know that you aren't alone in how you feel, and that understanding why you feel as you do is just as important as your need to feel like your self again.

Take care! I know you can do this!

Answer 3

Relasping back into depression is all too easy as it's so familiar but you should never give up.

What treatments have you had in the past? Anti-depressants? Psychotherapy? My recommendation is that for any treatment to be effective and long lasting you need both.

With the drugs you should keep taking them for at least three months and more likely six months after you start feeling 'well'. If the drugs you are taking don't help ask your doctor for something different. If your general doctor is out of their depth they sometimes cannot give anything other than prozac which while it works for a lot of people for some of us it doesn't. If your doctor can't help get referred to a psychiatrist. I found MAOI's don't really work for me so I normally take one of the tricyclics. Check out the SANE website for more info. You need to find the one that works best for you.

Psychotherapy is very useful in preventing a relapse, but sometimes it's still going to happen. The best thing to do is to understand yourself, spot your early warning signs and act as soon as you can. I tend to have problems sleeping and worry more. Then I start losing touch with myself - I don't feel hungry or thirst or sleepy - so I forget to eat and drink. This gives me headaches and makes me even more lethargic than I already am! Having had two previous depressive episodes I now see these signs early and am straight to the doctors for more help. It means the downs are now shorter and less severe.

The best prevention is keeping a regular schedule - sleeping at the same times every night, no late nights or lie-ins (well not too many!) and good diet and exercise. A desk job and fast food is a fast track to a downer. My doctor suggested a low GI diet - that is making sure I eat complex carbs not sugars so I don't get highs and lows from my diet. This has really helped. I also have a couple of workouts I do at home in the mornings that kick starts my morning. On the days I work out and eat well I find I sleep easier and the next day is good too. I also avoid alcohol and definitely don't binge drink like I did as a student - the occasional glass or two is fine but alcohol while depressed is a really bad idea as it will make you feel worse. I also avoid caffiene.

So my top tips are:

A good diet
Drink plenty of water (very limited alcohol and no caffiene)
Daily morning exercise
A good nights sleep

And based on this I can now go years without a relapse and when the downs come I see them coming and deal. I know this may sound very basic but good physical health is strongly linked to good mental health. Can't have one without the other.

Listen to your body and give up any bad habits but most importantly...

Never give up.

Answer 4

7 Things You Can Do Immediately To Ease Depression


1. Get out now and walk fifteen minutes. It will get your feet moving and help you feel you are at least able to do something.

2. Go immediately and be with someone who loves you. It will give you the feeling that you are wanted.

3. Religious? Say a prayer. Ask God to help you get through this.

4. Think of a situation, a place where you were very happy. Visualize yourself in that situation once more.

5. Power of suggestion can do wonders. Say to yourself, "I think I can get better. I have to take it step by step. I will work my way out of this."

6. Go out and buy a plant, or some flowers. Having something living in your house makes you feel more alive.

7. If possible, get outside in the sunshine. If it's not possible, turn on some bright lights. Sunshine and bright light are known to make people happier.


I recomend to you, go to:
http://easyunderstand.com/depression/

Here are a lot of information about depression and how to deal with it. Maybe this page could help you.

Answer 5

I get depressed on a regular basis as well.. i started seeing a therapist after some bad thoughts of self harm and was diagnosed as bipolar (although I'm still waiting for the highs...). It has been my experience that drugs can be helpful to some people but having someone that is medically knowledgeable about depression its helpful, I felt better just talking to this person... The most important part is to not give up on yourself - that is the worst way to go. When you start feeling like you are headed that way, talk yourself out of it.. that probably sounds weird, but I have learned that when we encourage the bad feelings things get worse. Tell yourself that you are getting help, call a therapist, even if you don't initially believe what your saying, force yourself to think about getting better and not about how bad you feel. Listen to upbeat, positive music, not slow and sad... things like that, it makes a difference. Trust me, I know its easier said then done, but it is worth it and it will get easier.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I get depressed everyday my self.I cry alot. I cry everyday.I don't wanna talk to anyone in my family because they don't understand.It feels like its beating me up on the inside.My family just makes jokes.And makes fun of me instead of helping me.Like my cousin threatens me.To throw things at me. Or to even hit me.I just can't stop my self from crying,the pain,the depression, and the hurt.I just can't go on.Some times I feel like letting go and giving up.I can't take anymore.But I have to be here for my child.That what is keeping me holding on.

Answer 8

you sound pretty bad i think you should check yourself into a mental hospital you will be in a controlled environment and meet people who have the same problem you do i don't know if things are the same now i went to a hospital in 1983.i was desperate like you are now after spending a month in the hosital i got better. from what you are saying i really don't think you can get through this on your own. you need help

Answer 9

have you tried talking to a therapist? i get depressed a lot and it seems i cant even talk to my friends or family about it because they dont understand. maybe you need to take medication as well, nothing is wrong with you but it better to see if you can fix this than be upset all the time because i know it sucks

Answer 10

Never give up, years from now you will look back and be glad that you got through this. Have you been to see a doctor, or spoken to a family member, it will help, because right now you need lots of support.

Answer 11

Nooo!!! Never Give Up! You should get some help! Don't harm yourself that's not gonna solve anything. Talk to a psy it will help you, try to be 100% honest and they will help you. Look for a good one