What do I do, or tell myself to not let things bother me? Help?

Question

come from a trouble back ground and am scared. Anyways, I hate my inlaws and i have to share a house with for now. I have everything of my own except the kitchen. Just hearing their voice makes me want to punch them. How do I stand them until i have to move? They have done so many things.

Answer 1

It's a temporary problem, look at it that way. Also, tell yourself that your anger doesn't hurt them but it could harm you in a number of ways including raising your blood pressure to a boiling point or destroying your marriage. Tell yourself, I want my health and marriage more than I want to scream right now.
Consider talking to your spouse if the ears are open and conisder short term therapy. A little anger management can go a long way in dissipating emotional unrest.
And also, pray.
If it were me, I might walk around the house silently and when people asked what I was doing I would simply smile. You can control yourself and not others,
Smiling will make them crazy. Just smile and repeat a mantra of peace inwardly. Say positive things to yourself such as I'm strong and I can endure this temporary disruption.
Parents in law can be a trip sometimes, watch sit-coms built around that topic like Everybody Loves Raymond or soemthing and laugh out loud as you realize you are not alone.
Finally, a little aerobic or yoga or a walk around the block can prove helpful in excercising your body and mind. When you feel better, you'll be better able to handle the stress in your life.
Never, ever engage in a verbal battle with your parents-in-law, you've got too much to lose if you value your marriage.
Don't win a battle and lose the war. Remain calm, cool and collected. This too shall pass.
Every now and then just for the sheer joy of it, take their offspring off for a romantic evening. It doesn't have to cost a lot or even any money. Your goal is to take your mate out for a few hours to rekindle the romance...to remember how special that person is and what they mean to you. -
You can enduer almost anything to keep your home intact.
If they are abusive (verbally, emotionally or in any manner), address it. If they just make you nutsy, smile. Ever heard the expression, grin and bear it?

Answer 2

I may not have an answer you can use, but it just might work. Try turning frustration into humor. If they do something stupid, laugh about it instead of thinking how stupid they are. Yes, laugh at them! It will confound them, and make you feel better at the same time. They won't know that they are the joke~Nyuk! Just don't tell them the 'punch line'!
Laughter takes a load off your shoulders
Once, a friend dated a femiNazi. Nobody liked her and she didn't like antbody. We 4 were playing cards. A 5th was washing his hands behind her. (They hated each other) He was 'sweet talking her bigtime! She was loving it. He turned around and flipped her the bird and stuck his tongue out at her back. I started snickering, causing the next guy to start laughing. She asked what we were laughing at. That got us laughing that much harder. When her bf got back from the b-room, he started laughing just 'cause we all, except her, had tears in our eyes from laughing so hard. She even started laughing, too, not knowing we were laughing at her! That made us laugh even harder. What a fun time that was! She was laughing at us laughing at her!! NYUK!!

Answer 3

If it was me, I'd get a small gas cylinder with a single burner on top and adopt one pot cooking in my room (open a window for ventilation!!!), to minimise contact (use incense [keep spares] to cover the cooking odors, or they may complain) - put the refills (7kg: 16 lbs) in a large backpack. If they ask; say you have switched to sandwiches and fruit and canned food (put some opened tins in the garbage). Use plastic bowls or plates & implements, clean in sink. Practice for 20 mins daily, and whenever needed, the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy", or gaze at a burning candle in the darkened room. Count backwards from 10 to 1 before saying anything you may regret. Go for regular walks outside with your partner, and try to get out every day, even if only to the library, or windowshopping. I would also take up a self defence course, to give me confidence, and teach me mental techniques, so I would not feel scared.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

i had the same problem. what i did was take a shower did some cleaning and then. went some where for the whole day.
if i had no money. i would eat at home and take a lunch. and leave all day. it is hard just take a deep breath. and read or talk to some one that understands.

Answer 6

Maybe if your husband is willing to back you up on this matter, he can talk to his parents about their inappropriate behavior towards you. After all, you are his wife and unless you've done something to them to provoke this, he is OBLIGTED to stand up for you !

Answer 7

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