I have a friend who is like a sister to me and I'm worried and I'm running out of answers for her. There's this guy that she's really into that she works with...come to find out its her boss...they have been intimate once before. Well they joke/flirt around when no one is around. He tells her if she wants to hang out drop him an email or other. They'll set plans up but he always seems to have an excuse like his mom was over, he has stuff to do..basically a lame excuse everytime. Here this poor gal is getting all dressed up and hoping that it might be a good night.....problem is...I feel that he's "dangling her," they make plans he breaks them and he's been doing this for months to her. My advice to her is...he's a joke, she needs to move on but she keeps insisting that ooooooooh he's busy or something else....I feel that she's really heading for trouble...for one its her "boss" two its clear he's not interested and he's playing mind games. How do I steer her clear and get her away?
2007-03-25 17:36:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she sounds destined for disaster and you cant save her
2007-03-25 17:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by kelly r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've tried talking to her and telling her how this guy looks from your angle - and she won't listen? There really isn't anything you can do. She'll learn from her mistakes (hopefully - unless she's one of those hopeless people) and then she'll know for next time to go for someone reliable.
Here's something you could tell her: If he's unreliable and they're not even together; would he also be the type who if they lived together and she had dinner fixed and he cancels all the time? Who wants to be with someone who leaves them hanging. Once or twice is situational and can be understood. More than that and that's just how the person is - and us women all know how you can't change a guy, don't we. If he cared about her, he wouldn't treat her that way. Actions speak louder than words.
She may not see that for herself until she's ready to. And when that happens you'll be a good friend and encourage her to look for good qualities in a man. Reliablity is a good one to look for. ; )
2007-03-26 00:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cedar_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Braking these dates it hurting her and i dont see why she should go on. he dose not seem to being true to your friend. and that is completley uncool. Some advice i would give your friend is to move on.becuase hoping all these nights to finally spend time with him is only hurting her. i hope i helped somehow =D
2007-03-26 00:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Vince F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you , not her. mabye u should try showing her this quesiton and answers so she can see other ppl out there are seeing the same thing as u.
2007-03-26 00:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋