Me and my gf have been together for 2 years. We basically lived together. She just turned 30 and i'm 24. She's got 2 kids which i loved to death. She just started this new job and started acting different towards me then just up and decides to break up with me over nothing really. Then come to find out she's been seeing this guy she works with. She tells me to find someone better cause i deserve it and that she has finally found someone better. There are so many girls i could go out with right now but i don't really want to cause i can't get her out of my mind. I think about her everyday. I was gonna marry her soon hopefully. For 2 years i lived my life for her and those kids now all of a sudden i feel so lonely and empty inside. I didn't think it would hurt this bad but it does. I just don't see how after so many memories we had together she could up and leave me for another guy. She said she couldn't help it she was sorry but she really wanted to see where things went with him.
2007-03-25 17:35:16 · 8 answers · asked by Jeremy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all this crap came on within about a week...how can she give up 2 years of us for just one week so far. It kills me to be thinkin bout what she is doing now. I just find myself thinkin bout her constantly...i'll look at my phone and wish to god it would light up wit a call or text from her but it doesn't. She has obviously shut me completely out of her life for this other guy who she just met. how can i get her off my mind since its so easy for her?
2007-03-25 18:25:16 · update #1
i know the feeling, your asking why though? why did she leave you? well, i can say that all people are different but their behavioral tendicies are usually the same, when someone loves someone, they love them, but i am a firm believer that lust is a much stronger emotion than love, i have been there, and experienced infidelity as well. when in a work place, it seems the only urge, other than working, is to fit in with a "crowd", usually when work friends are found, they feel very much alike, similar, and have much in common, due to the fact that thier occupation is the same. a certain bond ensues, and people who work together usually are very close to eachother for long periods of time, which means they overall see them more than they see you. because of this, the poor fool (your ex) is in a way influenced by this constance, they begin to see the positives in them, and the negatives in you, and it always ends up the same "The grass is greener on the other side" everyone knows this saying right, and it cannot be simpler put regarding this situation. and your ex will soon see that she possibly made the worst decision of her life, not many men would love anothers children. and obviously you were good to her, seeing as you were together for two years.
she is right, you do deserve someone better, someone who refuses the temptation of lust, someone who would rather have and share devotion and love, than go with the disgusting teeny immaturity of cheating and lust. i can see why you feel empty, and confused, dont take this lightly, no one should, that was a very horrible thing she did, and fate will see that she will experience worse in days to come. her new Mr. perfect will no doubtly be the one to show her the ultimate flaws in humanity, because a man who would go as far as to break apart a relationship for two years is no good man, she will get hers, you will move on, just dont find someone new in bars, their all **** ups, and go out more, or focus all of your emotion into creativity, im sure you will find your happiness again.
2007-03-25 17:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by ubermenschen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not really any magical solution for being able to get her out of your head. I know that sounds bad but I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Maybe someday you will be able to see that a little bit clearer. I'm 23 and I've been through all kinds of situations so I have a bit of understanding of how you are feeling. Just try to start thinking positive. The more you actually let yourself think about how crappy you feel..the more crappy youre going to feel. If you love her kids and they are attatched to you, theres no reason why you cant still see them..just call and tell her hey, I'd like to spend time with the kids, it might make you feel a bit less empty..and will show her that you care. People who love you and whom you love often to stupid things with out really thinking it through. You never know what could happen later on. I can bet you though, that if she is in anyway a human she regrets it..even if she won't admit it. In the meantime, just hang out with good, trustworthy friends, try to watch funny movies, that sort of thing. If you want to talk feel free to email me. the contact is on my profile, dear. Good luck!
2007-03-25 17:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Minty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh this is hard, but there is not much you can do....first of all maybe try to get in contact with her just to talk about things. but the one thing not to do is annoy her -- maybe just ignore her for awhile , dont call or anything, and she will wonder what you're doing. but at the same time, if things don't work out with the other guy and she wants to date you again, is that smart? yes you loved her but if she can easily take that for granted and want to see what else is out there she isn't ready to settle down probably. there aren't many guys out there who would even talk to a girl with 2 kids...let alone treat them well...she's tryin to play the field and get attention and you are ready to settle down with her. you can't change what she wants to do so just try to see if yall can sit down and have a long talk....good luck
2007-03-25 17:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a GREAT guy. You deserve someone better!!! She was also probably too old for you. At any rate, she totally took advantage of you and your good will. You were used, bro!
Look around. There are probably lots of nice girls (without children!) for you to take an interest in. They will be happy to see you!
2007-03-25 17:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really sad. im sorry. it sad that you also bonded with the kids and she just ripped u from their lives and vice versa i really dont think thats good for the kids either. this has happend to me 2 X and the best thing is to forget them theyre jerks. i kno its hard but time heals all wounds. eventually u will be okay again. and watever u do dont blaem usefl over this. *HUG*
2007-03-25 17:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happend to me only it was my wife and we had 2 kids. We cant change other people and some things we will never understand.
2007-03-25 17:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want HER back -- someone so incredibly selfish and who obviously had no respect or feeling for you whatsoever? I think you're missing the kids.
2007-03-25 17:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her??
If yes then GO GET HER!!!!
God your so stupid ...
Sweep her off her feet !!!
2007-03-25 17:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Holly Golightly the hippie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋