2 years together and i cant stop thinking about him or how to get back together....i know we will never see eye to eye though and just want to get on with my life. Is it wrong to start dating immedietly? how long should you wait?
2007-03-25 17:32:48 · 22 answers · asked by chcknbizkit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not knowing the whole picture is hard..
or how old you are..
In my experience...
to get over someone isn't necessarily easy...
but i have found that when i first got involved in volunteering, helping others in need , i found my own problems and burdens much lighter. I found an anchor and center in my own soul, met a lot of nice people and rebuilt my self esteem and confidence, so when i was really ready to "move on " so to speak , it also gave me time to see the kind of person i was and , he was and the mistakes perhaps we both made so i could not get into the same kind of situation again.. I grew up too.
I don't recommend you date until you can truly move on, giving 100% to the next relationship.. it isn't fair to the next person for you to be stuck back in the past ... nor for you..
good luck.
2007-03-25 17:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being together with someone for a long time, sometimes feels like you have invested alot of time with that person, and when you break up it feels like all the time you invested is lost. If it really is over, stop contimplating getting back together, because as much as you want it to, if its over and done with, then its time to move on. Think of the reasons it didn't work. Think of all the happy times you had and be grateful that you have those moments. Now think of alll of the happy times you are going to have with someone else. In life you will always have your heart broken sometime or another. Time really does heal a broken heart. If you were together for 2 years, I wouldn't start really having a relationship for at least 6 months after a breakup, anytime before than will be a rebound. If you really like someone else than wait it out, that way you will know when you are over your ex. If you just want to go on dates with a guy wait a few months, but just make sure it is nothing serious until after 6 months. Guys don't want to be a rebound, and you wouldn't like it either.
Now you have to ask yourself if the breakup was on good terms or bad terms..if it was bad terms, then sometimes it is easier, that way you know it was the best decision to breakup. If it was on good terms, then just try to move on slowly. Try doing things to keep your mind off it, if you are constantly busy it will give you less time to think about him. If you are not doing anything it will give you more time to think about the past, and make you sad. Try not to be alone alot, try to be with family and friends, and try to laugh alot.
Well thats all of the advise I can think of for now..
Good Luck!
2007-03-25 17:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's just no "best" way - i think people heal differently but the common factor is that it takes TIME for things to heal and for things to be normal again - esp. if you 've been together for 2 years - the longer you've been together, the longer it's gonna take to get over them. I think everyone always needs the time after a break up to just be by themselves and really just reflect. You can't take off the band aid off of a cut when it's still red and open...i think once you're starting to heal again, you can slowly come out of that shell and just explore - but only you can decide all this - i'm sorry and good luck!
2007-03-25 17:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't start dating. That is just rebounding. Wait until you suddenly realize, "Wow! I didn't even think about whats-his-face all day!" Then you can start thinking about someone new. You need to stay very busy right now, maybe try something new that you won't associate with him. Its old and corny but true, "this too shall pass". Heartaches suck and I really wish you the best.
2007-03-25 17:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Grandma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes there are amazing people you meet and you'll always be in love with - everyone after that will be second best. and there is nothing you can do but cope, accept it, and hope there is love for someone in the future. No one here can tell me that two years doesn't have a profound effect on your life. To bury it and forget it is against love. You can't let it ruin or change your life but I don't believe we just 'move on'. Be positive and don't look for a 'replacement'
2007-03-25 17:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by canadaboyjake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait long especially with when u are being ask out that will get your mind off that 2 yr experience. Pray more keep yourself busy. Think about yourself and God has someone else for u.
2007-03-25 17:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong to start dating. Cause you know your never going to be back together so just move on. unless its going to mess up your next relationship then you might just need to give your self a little time before you move on
2007-03-25 17:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by j_rock032004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your ready to date immediately and think your over him and stable then you should most definitely date. if you date and your not over him then its just a rebound, not a good idea. the way to get over him is to have time away, stay away from him and try not to think about him by staying busy, hang with friends, read a book, go on here answer questions, do whatever to keepp your mind off him. best of luck to you love.
2007-03-25 17:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by Youll See 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a serioius relationship then it will take time to get over. Take time for you .. Dont jump from the kettle into the fire as some innocent person will be the one that gets burned. God Bless
2007-03-25 17:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋