My girlfriend and I (both 16, though I'm not sure that's relevant) have been going out for just over a month. She seems bothered by my relationship with a close female friend of mine, who I recently introduced her to. Is there something I can do to make my girlfriend feel more comfortable about my relationship with my friend?
2007-03-25 17:29:59 · 11 answers · asked by whataburn123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's be honest here.
Generally speaking, females want attention and lots of it. I guarantee if you spend any amount of time doing ANYTHING that doesn't involve primping her up in some way, she's going to have a bone to pick, if not chew all the beef off the whole skeleton.
It could be spending too much time on the computer. It could be spending too much time with your Male friends. Or watching too much T.V or playing too much basketball, etc.
I find woman needing almost constant reassurance that they are special to you. It's not enough to say it a couple times a year. You could tell her she's the most beautiful person on the face of the earth one day, and I bet you she'll forget that in a week's time.
Though there truly is nothing wrong with having a female friend/s, I see it causing potential damage to your relationship with your girlfriend. I think females are highly judgemental of just about everyone in certain areas, especially when it involves physical beauty.
And I happen to believe you may feel somewhat "threatened" if it was your girlfriend that hung-out with another guy. Let's face it. It's like having a piece of chocolate cake constantly in your face but you can't have any because you're on Jenny Craig. The temptation to stray is just too great.
Sucks, but that's generally the way it is.
I have seen couples that are cool with their partners having friends of the opposite sex, but I have to say that's quite rare or it ends up breaking the relationship off.
Unless of course, it's a mutual friend between your GF and yourself. Even then it still gets iffy.
These things get itchy man. Be careful not to scratch too hard.
2007-03-25 17:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ensure you never go out alone with your friend, always inviting your girlfriend along. Talk to your girlfriend and let her know that your friend is just that. Further, make sure you never give more attention to your friend than your girlfriend. This situation will always be a bone of contention between you as this is just what happens.......especially if your secretly interested in your friend........give her no reason to suspect than your interest lies in anything more than friends.
2007-03-25 17:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it will be hard for you to do but put your self in her situation and he honest with yourself.If she had a guy friend that was as you say close,how would you feel man wake up and stop doing this to her if you want to be with her and why you thought it was so important that they meet i dont know.I really dont think you are going to get any support from many women especially if they have been in this situation before.
2007-03-25 17:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GEES! i am always in this boat. Im always the friend that the gfs are jealous of. I never understand the girls. I mean she might be jealous because your close with the girl probably tell her things about your relationship and tell her things that you dont tell your gf. But the thing is she has you and the friend doesn't. YOu picked her, your dating her. she calls you her own, she really has no need to be jealous. and you need to reassure her that. you should probably tell her that you went on here to help because you really care and dont want her feeling like that, that could help. just help her feel more secure about the relationship so she ahs no need to be jealous.
2007-03-25 17:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Youll See 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's friends with them for a reason. You guys sound really young. Guys in high school tend to have lots of female friends, and then shed them when you get to college and adult life. It's just convenient. You sit in a classroom with a girl every day... eventually, you become friends. You don't particularly care for one another. You just enjoy each other's company, but not enough to be really close. There isn't enough communication to keep that going. The second they don't have class together anymore, they drift apart. Other times, the guy could be in love with the female best friend. My best guy friend in middle school and high school, he had a lot of female friends, but he was closest with me. (Still is, actually.) We dated for a few months, realized it wasn't working, and he broke up with me. We went back to being friends. I thought that was that, but a year later, he got really drunk and ended up texting me. He told me how he fell in love with me and how he regretted breaking up with me. The next day, he apologized for his texts, but said that he did have feelings for me. The moral of this story is, sometimes the boy is immature and just is friends with these girls because it's convenient. Other times, he loves them.
2016-03-17 02:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she feels threatened by your friend.Tell your girlfriend that she's the most beautiful girl in the world.When u hang around with your female friend...invite your girlfriend along..pay her a lot of attention..that would chase away her insecurities.good luck:)
2007-03-25 17:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're both still young.... but you know what? I've been in that situation... I've got a lot of guy friends... and I'm so close with them... often times their gfs get jealous of me because of my closeness with their bfs... but i always tell them there's nothing for them to be jealous of... because me and their bfs are just friends.. best of friends and there's nothing for them to fear because i they're just a brother to me... and i also tell my guy friends to make their gfs feel secure of their love... make them feel that we are just really friends... maybe your gf was a bit insecure of your closeness with your friend... specially that your relationship was not that long enough compared to your friend... she's might be fearing of the thought that you would fall for your friend... or vice versa... so you have to make her feel secure that your love for her is enough for her to trust you that her fears wont happen and you wont gonna do that to her... that what you have for your friend was just purely friendship.. no more.. and no less... make her feel love everytime your together so she can get over with her fears towards your relationship with your friend....
2007-03-25 17:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls need reassurance for most of the time (if you could)...they always want security on their bfs feelings..they get jealous that easy... i think if you could give an assurance to your girlfriend then having other friends (girls) might not be a problem anymore...
2007-03-25 17:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sheryl Reyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mm no not really, except maybe hang out with both of them at the same time so she see's the friends just that, and no threat. w/e you don't stop being friends with her cuz if she can't understnad you then its not meant to work
2007-03-25 17:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of u are so young to understand the real meaning of relationship. but to make it simple for young teenagers like you... of course she is jealous. u should never be too close too other girl because she hardly have time with you so she wants you to herself baby!
2007-03-25 17:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tina J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋