My father molested my sister four years ago. She just told me last night.
We've always been tight. She's my best friend, and I am ready to kill him.
These last few months have been screwed up for us. She's been acting like she's in love with me! It's been freaking me out! She even told me point blank that she wants to be with me. That I'm the only guy for her. How did this happen?! I don't understand it!
II am so confused and so scared right now. Our mom is nowhere to be found. She ran out on us years ago. I don't know what to do. What I want to do is get her help and get us both out of this house, but I don't know how! I don't know where to begin! Please help!
2007-03-25 17:26:36 · 16 answers · asked by Matthew J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't kill your Dad just yet. It sounds like your sister may have some emotional problems, and it would not be good to kill your dad and then find out that your sister lied to you to get your attention. The first thing to do is call social services. They are in the blue section of your phone book. It might be listed under Child protective services, or the department of children and families, something like that. They will get you someplace safe and investigate your sisters allegations along with the police. They are very good at finding out the truth. whatever happens, they will do their best to keep both of you safe. They will help you find a relative, or your mom, or put you in a foster home. They will help your sister and your dad both get the help that they need. Go ahead and do this now. They are available 24 hours a day. Good luck and be safe.
2007-03-25 17:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to give you a whole heap of advice because im frankly not qualified and i think the situation ur in is awful.... she is acting this way towards you because she was molested by your father, she wants to be with you cos u know what happened and still love her, you are her saviour and she thinks the world wont accpet her but you will... when she gets over it she will stop with these feelings for you... i dnt know how old you are but please dont try to find comfort with her because it will hav the same psychological effect on her as what ur father did... i dont know if your old enough to support her... either way if ur dependent on your father... i suggest you let him know that you know and that you will protect her and tell the cops if he trys anything again... tell her to seek help from skl counsellor go together.... this is only if yoiu dont want a authoratative body to break up the two of you... i initally think u guys need to tell an adult, a grandmothre or friend, church someone who will believe you and ask ppl for help....
be the man your father is not and keep you sis out of danger until she is strong enough to get over it....
is your dad capable of something like this? because i hope she is not making this up to get your attention...its a horrible thing to say ,,,but if she is young and impressionable this might be a way for her to make you feel sorry for her....
dont act rashly...think about it tell someone you trust about it and make a wise descsion .... i will pray for you.
2007-03-25 17:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nadz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the Department of Family and Children Services in your area. They will be listed in the County government section of your phone book. The name may be slightly different. If nothing else call the general information number for the county and tell them who you want.
They will send someone out and arrange to take you and your sister out of the home you are in a place you in a foster home or with relatives. They might even be able to locate your mother. The sooner you act the better off everyone will be.
2007-03-25 17:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone at school (teacher, counselor, etc). They will see that you and your sister get help and are removed from the situation. You can also call Child Protective Services in your area and leave an anonymous report.
Do you have a relative that can help?
2007-03-25 17:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can call your state child protective services office or tell a school counselor or psychologist and ask them for help. You can also contact a pastor of your church or a trusted adult. You need help and you need to get out of that house immediately. Your sister is reacting that way due to her abuse and is looking to your for protection. You need to make a call to one of these agencies or a trusted adult such as the parent of a friend.
2007-03-25 17:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone like a teacher or counselor and tell them what is going on in your home. Ask them to help you with the situation. They will find help for your sister and you. You and your sister need to get away from your dad right away. You are right. He is evil. Good luck...
2007-03-25 17:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her help contact the Police immediatly, she is just going through alot of emotions now and since your the only one she has to talk to, she feels she is in love with you, but she need some serious help. You will need to stand up for her. Call the police.
2007-03-25 17:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by firetdriver_99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matthew you need to take your sister down to police headquaters so that she can file a complaint againest your dad. If you are both minors then the state will find homes for you or put you with a relative. Your sister does need help if she is saying things like that to you. But it all stems from your father. Please take my advise and call the police immediatley. I will pray for you both.
2007-03-25 17:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Matthew. This is certianly a difficult situation. I believe you need to get yourselves off to the police and tell them the situation. Failing that, see a counsellor who could guide you on what steps you can take depending upon age, finances etc. It is not ok for her to remain in the house and nor is it ok for her to see you as her rescuer or father figure. Please take some action and best wishes in your journey.
2007-03-25 17:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police, get in contact with other family members and take off with them, if other family members are jacked up, then it's time to man up abit and head out with your sister. Still, above all, contact the police.
2007-03-25 17:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mootron 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋