Dilemma!!! Need opinions..?

Question

We are currently living in the suburbs in a 4 bedroom house.. I share a house with my sister-in-law and her 4 kids and I have 3 kids of my own, Yes there are 7 children in the house, but we love it, they are wonderful kids..My dilemma is that our lease is up in about 5 months..I no longer want to live in the suburbs because the areas are getting rough..My eldest daughter is going to start high school soon and I dont want her to be corrupted... I would love to move back to the country, but there are not many opportunities in a rural area.. I'm at a loss as to what we should do..We have a had a family meeting, half want to and half dont.. It's a big decision to make.. Help!!!

We used to live in the country a few years back, then moved states, due to family illness, we recently moved back (last August) but decided the suburbs were a better choice as we are closer to family (the kids grandparents etc) but they hardly see them.. I cannot think of myself in this situation as the kids are first priority, My sister -in-law and I can get a job anywhere as we are teachers. Its the kids that we are looking out for, bascially for their futures, although they are all under the age of 11 at the moment, I dont want to put them in a position where they feel isolated..
The country town I want to move back to has a population of approx..7,500 so its not to small, it just doesnt have what big cities do......................

Answer 1

i can understand your point about the suburbs getting rough. I moved to a different city just before my boys were born to avoid that but it happens wherever you go (you just hear about it less).

If you've raised your kids with love, compassion and honesty (and it sounds like you have) then they will choose the right direction no matter where they live.

Opportunities for what exactly in a rural area? Employment for you and your sister-in-law? Choices for the kids? Growing up in a rural area was great for me and my family. We were more aware of each other and hung out as a family because of the limited 'technologies" instead of taking off for the city and only seeing each other once a day.

Ruaral living can be a wonderul experience and it can benefit kids in great ways. If you lived close enough to a city, you could make day trips to a city as well on weekends, getting the benefits of both.

Good luck with your decision!!

Answer 2

I think for me it would depend on how rural. I've lived in both growing up and I liked both. But I'm really glad we lived outside a small city when I was in high school. I had more options of what to do with my friends and places to go. When I look at my "city" cousins, they too had lots of activities and stuff to do with friends.

My cousins who lived in various rural communities had a lot more problems with drinking parties as that was often the only activity around on Friday and Saturday nights.

Either way though, what counts is what values you've instilled in your kids. If they have good values they'll shine anywhere you take them no matter how rough the surroundings seem to you.

Answer 3

am much proud of you as u are a good responsible mom and you don't want your daughter to get spoiled.

let me tell you my view.....

1) As a mom when you bother about your child's character nurture not to get bad you also think aboutt her aims which would get easily fullfiled if she live in metros

2) If you have given her good cultured care then its diffivcult for her to get corrupted.

3) You show her how much you love and care for her. So that it will become easier for her to long for your presence than rather else other.

4) You take a decision whether you are going to mould her CHARACTER or CAREER?

Coz both to go paralell is difficult but not impossible also.

Upto me Keep in mind her aims, ambitiions and her future and keep a keen track on her chracter also.......... i think it may help.............