my ex-boyfriend found out i was dating someone so he left me right away..we were separated for a year..he already has a new girlfriend..i tried to get him back but he said nasty things to me..so i stopped..now,,he wants to have me back..he says he didn't mean every word he said before and that he realized i was the one for him..but i'm in a dilemma..im starting to like this new guy..but there's still a part of me that tells me to accept my ex-bf again in my life..im really afraid of getting hurt again..ive cried for months and months..ive never gottn over him..but when i started to,,he came back..he also has a lot of vices..which i really hate..for our 2yrs of relationship,,all we did was quarrel over his vices..but still i loved him for that..im just afraid og getting hurt..i dont know if hes still worth a 2nd chance..
2007-03-25 17:24:29 · 5 answers · asked by heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, he did not even allow you to explain. If it was not an exclusive relationship, you need to let go. Especially if he has a girlfriend right now.
Sounds, like he may be a manipulator and is just messing with your head. If he still has those vices, that' even more of a reason to not get back together. If he hasn't changed for you and his other girl friend, you need to let him go
Could be he wants you back because she is getting on his case about his vises and he thinks that because he left you, you will be so sorry he left without a word that you would take him back.
Sounds like hes playin' you girl.
You are starting to like the new guy? Then don't let this other slime ball mess up a budding relationship with making you feel dazed and confused.
Good luck, hun.
2007-04-02 17:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the better health for the both of u this relationship has too much negative history and being the age that you are both at it would be very healthy to be truthful to ones self. Meaning you are already interested in another guy and you left the past guy because you were interested in someone else. This is a clear indication to you that your ex boyfriend isn't the right guy for you thats why you cheat on him..
Now the answer to your question you have in your head now the question is are you going to be honest with yourself and respect yourself enough to move on. It is also very important that you know that if you choose to continue the back and forth with the excepting of verbal abuse that you will be conditioning your brain that this type of abuse is normal behavior and will undoubtedly open the doors for further abuse. So a smart way to start on making the best decision is to sit back and weigh the level of good verses the bad. And if your honest with yourself you will walk away and not look back on any of the memories so they can settle where they belong inside of you.
2007-03-25 18:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by bronz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very powerful force. It can be very painful and while we all perceive it to be either good or bad, it is in fact the most controlling force within the human emotional factor. When you really love someone, that love can sometimes last forever. Everyone deserves a second chance providing it is healthy for both parties involved. I know this because I have loved the same woman for more than thirty years. Unfortunately. we are not together. Not because we don't love each other, but because we can't get along. We've tried, we've lived together and not. We've dated other people and we separated. Only the problem with separating is that you will never be able to go back to the way things use to be. No matter how much you love someone, it doesn't mean that the love you have for someone will keep you together. It is sad and a bit shameful, but you must understand this about LOVE;
in the end, it doesn't matter who you love. What matters is who loves you. I have loved when there was no love in return and for many years I thought that my love was in vain. However, in my old age, I discovered that my love has never been in vain. It has been my reason for living as much as I might have wanted to die at times. Loving someone is like collecting pieces of something very valuble. With time it pays off. The story of a man named Jesus Christ, whether you believe it or not, is a good example of why loving is so very important to humans. He loved the world and He was still persecuted and killed for expressing His love for all humans.
But as a result of His love for us, He lives today in the hearts of people who believe in Him. In the same sense, we can also love someone and then be betrayed. This is common within our modern day society. We are either betraying our love for someone or they are betraying us. This is not love.
Love is unconditional. When we fall in love with someone, we're not suppose to try and change them afterwards, we are to love them as they are. Unconditionally. You argued over your ex-boyfriend's vices for two years and you will probably find no change in him. But you can still love him. Go on with your life, be happy, marry, have children, raise a family or whatever. You can still love him. You just won't have him. For it is better to love than not to have known what true love really is. He allowed you to find that kind of love with him. Now that you know that true love is not only powerful and everlasting, love him for allowing you to to find and possess this treasure.
Reflect on what was good and why you fell in love with him. This will allow you to understand and harness the true meaning and secrets of loving.
2007-03-25 18:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by esteban g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell NO!!!!! Send him packing!!
2007-04-02 12:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by ilovepoison2820 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
2007-04-02 12:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋