Should I ask my best friend out?

Question

I know this girl Jaime and we been best friends for 4 years now and I really like her. She has been flirting with me lately and all of her friends tell us that we would be perfect together. They all tell me that she loves me and one of them know i love her. The thing is I don't want to ruin our friendship. I been really worried about that because my friend was bestfriends with a girl and when they broke up they weren't friends again and hated each other. I can talk to her about anything on my mind. And so can she. And how should I ask her out because I don't want it to feel awkward.


I asked this before but im still not sure.

Answer 1

I really think that you should just be honest with her. If you don't do something soon there is a possibility she will decide that she doesn't want to wait around her whole life, and she may just say yes to another guy that asks her out. This happened to me, except I was the girl. She probably doesn't know for sure that you love her and she is afraid to say anything. Knowing girls, they usually want the guy to be the one to be brave, so she may just expect you to do that if you really want her.

Best friends make the best relationships! Why should getting in a relationship ruin your friendship? If you are close now, imagine how much closer you could be if you were in a relationship. You could be best friends and lovers. It would be fantastic. I'm glad that you can talk about anything.

How should you ask her out? I think you should do something really special for her because you have been told that she loves you back. If you had no idea whether she liked you or not I would say just ask her out casually, but your situation is different! I have a couple ideas for you:

You could ask her over to your house for dinner. I'm not sure how old you are but if you live with your parents then make sure it's on a night that they are gone... of course, it would just be awkward if they were there. But also let them know she is coming over! Anyways ask her to your house but don't let her know that it is necessarily a "date." But plan everything out and make her something really nice, probably have it ready or mostly ready before she comes so that you can keep your attention on her. During dinner, you should tell her either that you are in love with her or that you like her (depending on what you are more comfortable with... is saying you are in love going to scare her away? I know saying you like her won't). I'm guessing she will react in a good way. If so you should give her some flowers. not roses yet, I think they are too common and a girl would appreciate something more personalized. But get her some pretty ones... maybe irises or orchids or lilies... depending on her taste and of course if you know her favorite flower get her that kind! That will let her know you have been paying attention and that you will make a really good boyfriend. Then you could offer to do something like making cookies (if she likes doing that, I know most girls do, it's really fun and entertaining thing, and rewarding at the end to). If you don't think that she would like making cookies I think you should get something for her for dessert anyways... you probably know what she likes. The more focused on her individual personality the better!! If she likes a particular dessert that not many other people like a lot then get her that one! Then you should have a good movie, either one of both of your favorites or a movie that both of you have been wanting to see. Make it fun but special!! This will get her heart going, for sure. And have fun!

If you can't do anything at home with her, then take her out somewhere meaningful but fun. Perhaps to a favorite restaurant and during dinner there ask her. And then take her to go do go-carts or something fun that SHE likes to do. Girls love it when you plan out dates step by step. You could also take her out for icecream or gelato is even better if you have it in your area.

Well, I suppose you probably have had enough of me already, but I hope these ideas help! And I definitely think you should go for it! I sure wish my best friend would have. The way it worked out with us was... he never asked me so I went with the next guy I liked, ended up getting engaged, and then my best friend ended up getting engaged... Then i realized I didn't really want my fiance so I broke up with him before it was too late but now my best friend is pretty much stuck with his fiance. None of this is out loud, though, of course. But we both know how we feel about each other, but neither of us had the courage to speak up! And now it's potentially too late! You don't want that to happen do you? So do something!

Go!

Hope this helps!!

Answer 2

Time to get out the clue-by-four, and smack some sense into you.

ASK HER OUT!!!

If you don't want to ruin your friendship, then don't act like a jerk when you're dating. Keep talking to her. Talk about her problems. Talk about your problems. And if you have an argument, apologize for hurting her feelings. You don't have to say you were wrong (unless you were), but if you upset her then apologize for upsetting her.

Stop worrying about what may or may not happen. You have a lot of time to work through problems that may or may not happen. The worst thing that can happen from dating her is that you lose her as a friend. The worst thing that can happen from not dating her is that she could have been the woman you would marry and spend the rest of your life with. I'd much rather risk the friendship.

Stop letting your fears rule your life. You can't be happy if you keep avoiding what might make you happy because you could get hurt. All that you'll do is make sure that you're never happy.

Now, stop staring at the screen and ask her out already!

Answer 3

Let me ask you something when you envision you with any woman in the world do you see Jaime? Before you ask her out think about your feelings because 9 times out of ten people love their best friends as friend and dn't realize it.
Ask yourself 3 little questions & if you can answer with no hesitation go for it. Answer from your heart not from another part of your anatomy.
1. If you had to choose between hanging with your guys or with her, who would you choose?
2. Can you live without her? Does she make you stop breathing when she walks in the room? Do you feel awed and blessed that she has taken the time to be youur friend.
3. If you see her with another man (making out, etc.) does it feel like your heart has broken into little little shards that will never be pulled out? Do you think it will ever go away when you feel it?
I have been here with a guy friend and he broke my heart so I hope this helped.
AND This is what girls want...
I want a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. The boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. The one who is constantly reminding you of HOW MUCH HE CARES ABOUT YOU and HOW LUCKY HE IS TO HAVE YOU.

Answer 4

I could recommend to not ask...that is viewed offensive to plenty of ladies. Just loosen up and drift, however do not be thirsty. Maybe she'll come directly to you IF she's ever capable. Friends with advantages is tougher than it kind of feels to manage and total a nasty proposal. Try taking this time to simply hang around and connect to peers and develop a bond along with your proper hand ;P do not offend the gorgeous woman

Answer 5

Look dude, don't listen to anyone but me on this one. GO FOR IT! Your relationship will last forever as long as you don't act like her dad. Treat her like a lady. Treat her like your best friend. But most of all SHOW her you love her. This is the best kind of relationship. Hey, I know you feel all warm and fuzzy inside when you're with her and that's gonna wear off in a few months after you get in a real relationship with her. What will be left is more important. A real friend and a true love. The fuzzys will come and go over time but the ove will last forever. So put your courtin' shoes on and go get her. You won't get a second chance at this one. So stop goofin' off and tell her you love her................... RIGHT NOW, JACKASS! GOOOOOOOOOOO!

Answer 6

Well if you are really that close as friends then ask her out. Even if things dont work out you will and can still be friends. Yeah it may be awkward at first but I mean if you like her. My and my friend did the same thing.

Answer 7

I'm going out with my best friend right now, and so is my sister. she came to me with the same problem.
my advice worked on her, but you actually have to TAKE the advice. lolz
Talk to her about it. Ask her that if you were to ask her out, would that change the friendship you had?
also make a promise together that you two will value and put friendship first.
And you know whats funny? i thought i knew my best friend, but when i started to go out with him, it was like... there were so many things i had no idea about him.
it's very fun, and it's a loving relationship.
:D
good luck

Answer 8

well i just asked my best friend out. it took a while then she said yes. the thing is after you have asked don't change coz that ruins things.

asking shows courage and girls really appreciate it when they know they're loved. ;)

Answer 9

hmm.. just call her and ask. if u feel awkward maybe calling her, IM her or emailing her will help. im sure she'll say yes.

Answer 10

Just ask she will be thrilled.