Okay.. So here is the story... Me & this guy (cody) have been best friends for bout 3 yrs. and friends for alot longer. ( were in high school) Well we end up datin for 4 months. Until he broke up with me because his ex lied and said i was all over another guy at a basket ball game and i really wasnt i never even sat next to this guy. I loved cody to much to do that... ( i never told him i loved him though) but anyways... after we broke up i found out he was cheatin on me with his ex. so idk.. but now its been almost 2 months and he still wont talk to me and all i want is to be friends cuz i miss him so much.. cuz he was my bestfriend and iv told him this bud it hasnt done any good cuz he wont wb and still wont talk to me. So why do u think he wont talk to me?? what do i do?? what did i do wrong??? PLZ HELP
2007-03-25 17:19:49 · 7 answers · asked by SouTHerN_GurL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand your situation, I was in a similar situation like this before. I had a boyfriend for almost a year and one of his friends who was a girl was always with him, we broke up, and then I found out from his friend (who was a guy) that he had cheated on me and to not bother talking to him. I tried talking to him asking him why he did what he did, but he never responded. I know you want to be friends and want to talk to him, but trust me you are better off without him, no matter how hard that may be. I think when a guy cheats on a girl and then doesnt talk to the girl he cheated on, there is probably guilt, and don't forget he cheated on you, so he doesn't respect you enough, therefore if he sees you are trying to be friends with him, he will lose even more respect because he knows you know he cheated on you.
You did not do anything wrong, but as time goes by he is going to let go and you should do the same. I think you should try letting it go and try finding another guy to be friends with and the best revenge is being happy. Then someday maybe he will see you and see that your happy and have moved on and he will feel guilty and look like an idiot for the way he treated you.
2007-03-25 17:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. How come the only reason he left is because you did something wrong? You have this guy on a pedestal.
Stop punishing yourself. He won't talk to you? Maybe he believed his ex (now current) girlfriend, but I think he's making you the bad guy so he doesn't have to face what he did. It's obvious that he never got over his ex. Even if he didn't believe that you were cheating, it makes a convenient excuse to break up with you and get back with her.
You can't see any of this because you're so busy blaming yourself for what went wrong. Honey, it's time for you to let it go. Forgive yourself, if you have to, but don't keep beating yourself up. This isn't your fault, and there was nothing you could do to change anything.
Maybe some day you'll realize that he hasn't been fair to you. Because he hasn't. He's treated you very poorly, and it's a shame that you're beating yourself up over it. I hope you never talk to him again. He doesn't deserve you, and you deserve to be treated better.
2007-03-26 01:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by stedh1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen i dont know how old you are.. but this is crazy! why wont he talk to me? WHY DO YOU WANT TO TALK TO HIM....????? he cheated on you.,,... hurt you and you STILL think he's your friend? are crazy or just too young to understand?? i know this is easier said than done, but come on! if you continue to think ppl like this are actually ur friends your gonna have the saddest most painful life ever....
make a clean beak stop goin after the man who made u this way and move on... cody is a bastard pure and simple .... and now that you know... u can move on.... and if you start to 'what if' then you have it in black and whit...'he cheated on me' and he will do it again because he saw no harm in it once so whats stopping him the second time around?
2007-03-26 00:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Nadz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He he.. same situation Im in.. Personally, I dont want to talk to them cause I feel ashamed. I know it was something good I had, but i decided I wanted to have her and someone else. When it comes down to It.. I am not deserving to talk to that person, and it hurts me to know that I still care about them , but I know It was me that ruined everything.
2007-03-26 00:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by -Dr. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong, the guy is a jackass. I would forget him and move on. If he doesn't want to be friends, put that in the past and move on with your life. There is no point in wasting your time on this jerk.
2007-03-26 00:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is feeling guilty or his ex doesn't want him to talk to u give him time he will come around
2007-03-26 00:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by givemesum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparantly nothing. maybe he is sorry he hurt you and rather not go there anymore and just stay away from you, really for your benefit, that's what id do at least. you should just not push the subject , things usually get worse. i dunno i'm just pessimistic. SRy!
2007-03-26 00:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋