Like if you have cancer or some disease and you know you're going to die early..or even in just a few years. Does anyone have cancer and know they're going to die soon? How does it feel...and what do you think about?
2007-03-25 17:07:27 · 10 answers · asked by gabbeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
nonono...i mean like if you only have a few months to live..you're told you're going to die in a short amount of time....what kinda things do you think about? money, family, friends?
2007-03-25 17:20:52 · update #1
It's a bit of a shock. Then terror Then there is denial. Then there is the pain. Terror. Why me? Anger! Then maybe there is time to get everything in order, The will, funeral arrangements, hospice bills. And then again, maybe not.
It's a good thing I read the book 'On Death and Dying' by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
2007-04-02 16:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't have cancer, but my son did.
I'll tell you what it feels like as a mother to think your child might die. It's like the whole world just comes to a screeching halt and what was today is now forever yesterday, and tomorrow is impossible to fathom.
There's nothing but the here and now and that is all that you can be focused on from hereon in.
There's a saying, tomorrow is promised to no one--and that's the truth.
My son and our family made it through this life altering ordeal. He is well now, but I'll tell you something, it's changed everything. All the stupid things we worried about, all we thought was important, it's all changed. We don't think too much about tomorrow anymore. We focus hugely on today. And each day I think about every word that comes out of my mouth, and if I lose it, I take it back immediately, because I know how close we came to wondering if we'd ever have a chance for more tomorrows and to say the only three important words that matter in this world.
2007-03-25 17:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have cancer, but I do have a termnal illness called pulmonary fibrosis. I was diagnosed in March of 2003 and given anywhere from 18 months to 3 years to live - as you can see, I have successfully exceeded everyone's expectations. I'm still dying, but I don't think about tomorrow, only today.
When I first found out, I didn't believe it. I thought that the doctors had to be wrong and if I did have it, I would beat it. Then after a while I got angry. I was mad that I had this disease that was going to kill me long before I could grow old with my wife, kill me before my daughters were married, kill me before I had grandkids. Then I got sad. It was tough to look my wife in the eye (we've been happily married for 31 years) and not feel guilty that I wasn't going to be around to take care of her when she grew old. We had always planned on growing old together, and now that isn't going to happen. And then, finally, I accepted it and went back to living.
My life is different now. I have physical limitations I didn't have before. I have pain and am on oxygen most of the time. I still love my wife more than I ever did before and I know she loves me because she is still with me, my biggest fan and cheerleader. I don't worry about going to sleep and not waking up in the morning. That's because I enjoy every moment I have and I make sure the last words my wife hears every day is "I love you." That way, if I don't make it through the night, she will always remember the last thing I said.
Dying isn't fun, but it is the end of our journey here on earth. I don't know what comes after all of this, but I do know I have no regrets and am happy that I have lived the life I was given to the best of my abilities. I hope this helps explain things a little for you. People who are terminally ill are really just like you - the only difference is they have an idea of how and when they are going to die, but they don't dwell on it. They just take life one day at a time, like it's the last day they are going to have. And that makes life pretty special.
2007-03-25 19:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Barry M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well,
you start out that you don't believe it
then you go into the worst depression you can image
then you get over that and try to put your life in order - that is a great project to keep busy.
then you get use to it and try to not think about "it" but "it" is always right there - like it is right behind your eyelids and you see it every time you close them.
I have a hard time sleeping at times - and get angry that I am not going to be old.
You also FIGHT - fight the cancer, hate the cancer, do everything you cna to keep the cancer at bay
The thing I hate most is people telling me "they understand" - HATE that; you can't understand till it has happened to you.
What I do now is life to have a purpose, I started a support group for my cancer and I do advocacy and try to live life to fullest and be good to everyone and be the best I can be to my friends and family.
Tim McGraw song is SO TRUE 'live like you were dying".
Jewells
36 months and still here
2007-03-26 03:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by jewells_40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know I don't have cancer, but I had a friend who was diagnosed with cancer in November and died in February. At first the prognosis was good, but the second round of chemo failed which pretty much signaled the end. He had less than a week's notice before he died.
He spent that last week of his life in the hospital. He put his financial affairs in order. He made sure he had a DNR order in place and spelled out his last wishes concerning his possessions, memorial service arrangements, etc.
Beyond that he was very forthright and kept his sense of humor. He made sure he spoke with the people who were important in his life, either in person or on the phone. Personally, I don't know if I could have demonstrated that much bravery and dignity, but I hope I would.
2007-04-01 22:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jehosephat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was about 6 i was told that i would only have a few months left to live. ever since then i have lived life to the full and im not scared of dieing because its just a part of life. im now 15 and im just waiting till that day comes but im not scared because i know that my life will have to come to a end anyway. you just treasure everyday taht you have.
2007-03-26 09:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family is the most important thing in life...not money, not
success...just your family and your friends.
And the moments you spend with them are precious.
None of us know when our time is up so we should all live
like we are dying and enjoy life. Enjoy the birds singing, the smell of the air and enjoy your family and friends and love them and love them well.
2007-03-31 14:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by K C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like living life to the fullest.you started to die the moment you were conceived. death is a part of the cycle of life.therefore live the life you love ,and love the life you live.
2007-03-25 17:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by braider954 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's called life...we all die anyway....why worry...makes no sense...keeps living right and you will have no worry about apoligizing for mistakes to family...good luck
2007-03-25 17:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Michael K 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it feels scary .....
2007-03-25 17:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by 101 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋