Been broke up for a week. He uses me and treats me badly so why do I miss him and want him back?

Question

I have been on and off with my boyfriend for 4 years. We do good for a couple months and then something always happens and we brake up, usually I get mad at him and brake up with him. At the longest it has been three weeks at a time. This time he made plans with me to watch a movie. I called him when we said we were going to get together and he said, "I'm at my buddies house and I'm going to be here all night." I don't care that he hangs out with his friends but he did make plans with me just the night before. I said, "You were the one who said that we were going to watch that movie tonight," then i hung up on him. He called back ten minutes later but I didn't answer. We haven't spoken since, its been a week. I still love and miss him a lot, but when we are together he uses me for rides places (because he doesn't have a car) and to buy him meals. He doesn't respect me enough to keep our plans.
So why do I miss the @sshole?

He is the one who made the plans with me, thats why I'm pissed that he broke them. I really don't care if he hangs out with his friends all week, but if he says he's going to be there on sunday, then he better damn right be there.

Answer 1

That's because you love him and care about him. It's easier said than done when people tried to tell you to get over it and move on. I know that you know this break up is the right thing to do, but you can't help but love this f*cker, the heart wants what it wants right? I'm still trying to get over my @sshole as well so I don't have any magical formula to share with you. All I can say is if you wonder why you miss him, that's because you love him and stop beating yourself up over it, it's not a wrong thing that you did, it's not a mistake or anything, you just love the wrong person so you'll need to get over him and find the right one. Try to do it little at a time, stop contacting him, don't make urself available to him either, keep yourself busy (not with another relationship), just with things, school, works, anything to better yourself so whatever happen in the future, you are just better off (financially or good grades, education) in the process...

Answer 2

If he is that terrible of a guy and yet you miss him, you may have issues with co-dependency. The reason I say that is because if someone is treating us badly, it should feel really good to not be treated poorly, but when we want that kind of behavior in our lives again, it says there is something wrong within us that needs to be fixed. Seek out a therapist who can help you figure out why you are missing bad treatment.

Answer 3

human beings SUCK! One may additionally blame terrorists, who think of they're Muslims, yet they actually do no longer abide with the help of the guidelines on Islam. i'm Roman Catholic, say Islam is misguided, yet i've got faith that Islam would not advise such violence as 9/11. no longer each physique, besides the fact that, is as reported (thank you media). If individuals have been smarter, this commentary of hating Muslims may well be much less consumer-friendly.

Answer 4

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If you break up over a movie night, it wasn't meant to be. You hold on to him because you think he's the best you can do. This isn't the case.