Have you ever cried over sadness for anothers persons loss?

Question

Im not a guy thats very sentimental and i have hardly ever cried, not even when i get hit in the nuts, lol. but i kind of felt like crying when a person at work told me his father died. I didnt know this person well and never met his father. but it was what he said that made me kind of sad. he said that he and his dad werent that close but now that hes gone he wishes he could just go fishing and drink a couple of beers with him. this kind of made me sad because thats the kind of relationship me and my dad have.

Answer 1

You told that you are not much sentimental, have hardly ever cried but you cried coz of other persons loss

The reason is that........

1) when you heard your colleague's dad's death, the very time you started thinking about your dad.

2) Because you also behave the same as that guy did

3) I know that am correct because whenever we hear some story / see some film , read a novel the very time we start comparing ourself with those characters.

4) And when the story / film moves happily, our senses are happy and when its rediculous we are happy and when it goes sad we also feel it.

5) Hope you find the answer to why people cry over another person's loss.

Tsunami is a gud example, everybody felt sorry for the miseries though they dont have any relation with them.......

Answer 2

A teacher of mine recently suffered the sudden loss of her twelve-year-old son. Though I hardly knew the boy, I was devestated, which is rare because I am not a very sensitive person. The night I found out, I cried for a while, only to return to school the next morning to find the rest of my small school just as depressed. The most horrible thing for me, though, was seeing my beloved teacher's face a few days after the death of her son. Her usually cheerful face was twisted into such a horrible look of anguish and suffering that I decided would have given my life for her little boy. I love this teacher very much, and I was happy to see her return to her job a couple weeks later (this all happened a few months ago) but she still isn't the same. No matter what expression her face takes on, even when she's laughing, her eyes still look sad. It's like a peice of her happiness died with her son.

To this day I remember how horribly depressed I was. The death hit me like a ton of bricks, I was sadder then than I was when my own uncle died.

Seeing as I don't have any children or anything, I can't relate with my beloved teacher, and I don't really know why her loss hit me so hard. I just hope I don't have to experiance the depression again. Once was hard enough.

Answer 3

Yes,I have cried over another persons loss.

My brother and his wife lost their 4 month old daughter. I had never met the child but to me anyone that loses someone should have people that are caring and supportive in their time of need.
What you experienced getting upset over your friends fathers death was the fact that you could lose your dad some day and it hit close to home for you the feelings that your friend must have had.
Try treating life like Garth Brooks song "If Tomorrow Never Comes" that way you will never have to say if I only........

Answer 4

Yes. My husband's father died yesterday, a little different because I'm closer to the situation, but I didn't know him very well. I've been crying because my husband is so distraught, and keeps saying he's going to miss his father's voice. It also makes me think about the possibility of losing my own father, who has had several heart attacks already. I don't know what I'd do without him. I cry every time someone loses a child- It doesn't matter if they're in Botswana and I've never met them and couldn't pronounce their name, I will cry over that loss.

Answer 5

Yes, many times. I have cried reading others sad stories here, just wishing I could give them a big hug and make it better. But, then again I have a heart the size of Texas. It just means that you do have feelings. Having a heart and feelings is nothing to be ashamed of and I think it is something to be very proud of. What is a person with out compassion for others, not much in my book.

Answer 6

Yes. My daughter's kindergarten teacher died of cancer. The teacher's daughter was in the class. I still cry when I think about it. It breaks my heart to think of a little girl growing up without her mom. It makes me contemplate how my daughter would feel if I were not around. I know the only thing that worried this teacher was what her children would do without her. This was the sweetest lady you would have ever met. It is a loss like this that helps you realize what is really important in life.

Answer 7

Yeah. I have. And I'm not the one to break down in tears very often over other's troubles. But I have twice.

My friend's dad died... and she is young. When I found out the news, I just bawled. I had never even met her dad. I actually never heard her talk about him. But I just cried a lot when I heard about it. I couldn't imagine how much she was hurting, especially when she was young and in college... not in the same city as him and all. I put myself in her shoes. That's why I cried. I got scared that MY dad could die at any moment. I called him that day.

Also, my uncle died at a young age from a long-term illness. It hurt so much. I also put my feet in his family's shoes. He left behind 2 young daughters and a wife. I again couldn't even BEGIN to imagine how hard it was for them. I hope something like that doesn't end up happening to me.


And hearing about abortions.... sometimes I find myself crying for those poor babies.

Answer 8

If their story hits home in some way. Like you said, he was so upset that he didn't have a close relationship with his dad, and neither do you. That is why you were upset. It made you think about your own situation with your dad, and think about if he were to die right now. Did you call your dad and talk to him. Maybe that was your sign to try and get closer with you dad, before it's too late.

Answer 9

many times even if i dont know them its just a response because it hurts to see another person suffer or hurt.sometimes it brings back your own feelings of loss and you can sympathize and wish you could say or do something to help.you say you have this kind of relationship with your own dad, so its not too late for you call or go see your dad and go fishing and have a couple of beers or whatever,you still have time do it now.good luck to you.

Answer 10

unlike you, i AM super emotional so.. lol yes i definitely have.. but i think what you're feeling is a very natural thing to feel, and so is shedding a tear. when he said that to you, you probably saw yourself saying that same thing to somebody, which made you feel sad for the obvious reasons. best advice would be to try to build a better relationship with your dad while you still have the chance.