i stopped drinkin a month and a half ago and i dont think im strong enough to stay with it?

Question

first of all i work at a bar on the weekend, i go out at least 3days a week counting the 2days and i use to be a heavy drinker i can take at least 8 partron shots a nite plus other drinks. it sucks not drinking but its good that i dont what can i do to stop the wanting a drink. im 30

Answer 1

Just take one day at a time. You go girl, I'm proud of you. I drink 2-4 beers a night but I have started to back off a little. I have noticed that I am looking older because of it and I'm almost 47. Remember you started at the right place, a bar. If you can work and not drink or sit at the bar and not drink after work then you can do anything your heart desires. I am so proud of you. Just remember if you start then you probably won't stop. Good Luck to you.

Answer 2

Try to avoid the cues and things that you associate with drinking - at least for the time being until you get some more self control. Going to the same bars and clubs you did while you were drinking is a really BAD idea. I hate to tell you this, but sometimes AA is an OK thing. You may (or may not) be an alcoholic but if you can get paired up with a responsible sponsor he/she can help. I've seen it work several times..... Your life is going to change, I hope you make it, but it is NOT going to be easy or fast. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Noone's said the G word so I will. Go to God. Go to AA. Go someplace where nobody's drinking. I drank for years. God saved me from myself. You cannot do it by yourself. Slowing down is not the answer. Swithching to beer is not the answer; alcohol is alcohol whether it's beer or licquor, it all gets you drunk. You just have to stop drinking. Someone here said "ONE DAY AT A TIME, ONE MINUTE AT A TIME." That is truly how it has to be. And working in the bar is not a good idea. Maybe after you get hold of yourself and feel strong in your sobriety you might be able to go to those places and feel safe but in the meantime you need to find alternative activies (as has been suggested) to take your mind from drinking.
You've taken the first step. Another step you took was reaching out to someone to talk to about it but you need a real live person who has been through it to help you. Please try AA. I'll pray for you right now that you have a good night and a better tomorrow and that you find a good AA group to attend. And prayer is the first best thing you can do. Good night and God bless your efforts.

Answer 4

First of all, you are strong enough.
Second of all, you should really get out of situations that require you to be around alcohol.
Third, and most importantly, you need to find a substitute behavior if you cannot avoid those situations.

For instance, look at Sam Malone on Cheers-yeah, I know it is fiction, but he substitutes alcohol drinking with water or soda. If you go out three nights a week, try to cut down, and be sure to have a substitute there as well.
The best thing to do is to find a substitute behavior for going out to bars. Take up bowling, golf, etc. Anything where you won't find alcohol. I am not an expert on alcoholism, but I have extensive education in behavioral science and taught students with severe discipline problems. Which reminds me...Provide yourself with a reward. Start off with small rewards for consecutive nights without a drink. Also mark your one year anniversary and plan a big reward, such as a cruise, mini-vacation, new plasma tv, etc. Make a savings account with money that would be spent on drinks. You can do it, and you deserve it.

Answer 5

Well, I was there when I was your age, bartending and the whole 9 yards. I just got burned out on it after a while and switched to beer as well eventually. I could drink like a fish and put hard liquor away like nobodys business-did it for about 8 or 9 years approx. I also went out as much as you did too. If you don't get sick of the hangovers and the same old routine in a couple of yeras, you may want to consider getting help. Don't worry about it for now but remember how you are damaging your body and hopefully you will care enough to stop permanently or slow waaaaaay down. Good Luck!!! You can still drink beer and have a great time.

Answer 6

To stop wanting alcohol, quit surrounding yourself with it 3 nights a week! That's crazy!

As the recovering alcoholics say, just take it one day at a time. That does not mean you stress about a toast at a wedding for your kid or any other what-if situations. It just means that for TODAY, you choose not to drink. For this MINUTE, you say no thanks and swill a coke instead.

Keep up the good work! And quit going to bars! Go see movies or go out to eat. Go to museums or take ballroom dance lessons. ANYTHING to keep you out of the bars!

Find a new job for those 3 days a wekk, too.

Best wishes! Congrats on being sober this long! YOU CAN DO IT!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I agree with sugar pie, don't surround yourself with it. It's like being on a diet and working in a pastry or candy shop, it's crazy! Get out of that situation.

Work at a coffee bar instead, you'll still meet people.

Answer 9

Find an AA meeting. You'll meet people who're in the same position as you are, and you might hear something you need to hear. I haven't had a drink in eight years.

Answer 10

I'm kind of in the same boat, I just stopped smoking crack 4 days ago...not quite a month yet lol!

I just ask myself if my life has changed for the better when I stopped. Personally my weekend was much better sober than it was before.