I am constantly having to deal with someone who clearly doesn't believe how insulting her comments are, especially when laughing at me after seeing how hurtful her words are.
If I say something and it is interpretted as hurtful, I apologize, immediately, and fix it.
2007-03-25 16:54:46 · 14 answers · asked by Heyjay 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It amazes me how some of you totally twist what I'm saying or assuming my reaction - and assuming I don't speak for myself.
lingua06, I do stand my ground - very firmly. She places blame on me and when I'm offended, I say so. She laughs when she sees my anger of insinuations.
There is absolutely nothing funny about insulting someone. I am not overly sensitive and I won't sit there and take cr** from anyone.
2007-03-25 20:21:23 · update #1
Yes, Forever. I tell her, immediately, it's hurtful. And that's when she laughs. No, I cannot change other people. But I sure as he** am not going to put up with BS!
2007-03-25 20:25:31 · update #2
I always take in account of others and try to see their views, but they love playing on the fact I don't play mental/emotional games.
They try to bring me down to their level, but it doesn't work.
By reacting is giving them more fuel to work with. By not doing anything gives them the idea they're going to keep pushing and nothing will be done about it.
2007-03-25 20:28:17 · update #3
OF COURSE THERE ARE!! Most of us are given the gift of common sense to protect ourselves. Use your common sense and distance yourself from this creature. If love is involved, she will attempt to make up, then you set the guidelines on what you will accept and what you will not accept.
Actually, this is just as simple as it sounds. Lots of other fish in the sea, etc., etc.
2007-03-25 17:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's all about perception and how your action affects others in my own opinion. It's difficult when your perception is only based on your experience and you do not take into account others feelings. There will always be those who only see life through their eyes and never take in account how their actions affect others. To be genuine is to consider others first. This is a difficult task, but again it's a perception that has to be obtained, the obtaining is not the goal, but the challenge to the obtaining is the reward. For I believe no one will ever obtain completely, but the effort of obtaining tells us if we are going in the right direction.
Shalom
2007-03-26 00:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Yehudah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look her in the eyes and ask her if you have said something or done something to upset her. If she laughs at that then say it again some other time. Keep giving her the opportunity to tell why she does this to you. You deserve it. Tell her that too. Good luck.
2007-03-29 23:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for some back bone.
When the person messes up, call her on it. Let her know her comments are unacceptable to you. Is this a colleague? A client? A friend or family member?
If the person won't learn, then cut them out of your life. If it is in the work place then file a complaint against them.
If you won't protect your self, who will? Life is too short too be living in fear. Assert yourself.
2007-03-26 00:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should reconsider if you really have to "deal with them" at all. Fade out and see if that makes a difference.
2007-03-26 00:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by macho007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people are so miserable, they need to make others feel worse to feel better about themselves.
I think the best thing you can do for yourself, is to feel sorry for her...and move on. You are one of the good people, who takes responsibility for your actions. But don't let this person control you or your feelings. Let her say what she wants, feel sorry for her, and then take care of yourself...don't take it personally.
Remember, the things we do and say are all about us, how we feel about ourself, how we want to be treated. This girl is lashing out about whatever is going on inside of her.
It's not about you, it's about her and how she feels about herself...just remember that.
2007-03-26 00:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are all sorts in this world. Yes, there are many that way. I have a neighbor that way. I ignore her.
After all, you cannot stop barking dogs.
2007-03-26 00:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mmmmm 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what comes around goes around.Sounds like she's bullying you,and needs to be put in her place the polite way...The time will come.And you'll have the perfect opportunity.
2007-03-26 00:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by mygrandparentsrthebestintheworld 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because the are ignorant, stop wasting your breath on them. you cannot change the actions of others, only your own.
Peace be with you.
2007-03-26 00:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes..bcos they're blinded with unrighteous acts
2007-03-26 00:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by zyvyxlady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋