Recently, I started talking to my ex. It all seemed to start out very romantically, and he called every day for a week, and I thought we were talking about getting back together, but he didn't call one night when he had said he would, and I texted him wondering what was going on. He called and started yelling at me--I took it all, thinking it was good to get this kind of feeling out in the open, but then, the next thing I knew, he was pulling back and calling at his convenience only. I tried to be nice and say how happy I was at the positive things he was doing, but he seemed pretty upset. He encouraged me to talk about the past, and we got some very important things out in the open, including him asking me why I had to leave NYC, and why didn't I let him move in w/ me when he was ready. Later, he wrote an email in which he talked about wanting to stay in touch but on his terms, and also basically saying that he didn't feel the same way as he used to on t
2007-03-25 16:52:40 · 10 answers · asked by Christina V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has feelings for you but he's afraid to get hurt again. He remembers how it is to be with you: he checked and made sure that romantic side is still working well. But he had done some thinking and he decided that a few things didn't work for him. Now he thinks that he can get you back with him but on HIS terms because you showed that you want him back. That's what it is all about.
State your terms to him. See if you can find some workeable solution. If no - you have a choise of accepting his terms without him accepting yours (why would you?) or moving on.
2007-03-25 16:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off how long were you broke up before this happen,second maybe he missed the having some one there for him kinda deal and he missed it but at the same time his mind was telling him something differant such as{being single has perks } so he was inventing these ordeals so he wouldnt fell guilty for stringing you along,maybe to its just time to move on it seems he lives in the past to much when in fact he should be living in today and the future.it seems he has insecurities as well ,mad at you for not letting him move in with you,good lord he also seems like its all about him and not about "us".and there is a reason why one becomes a ex and most the time those spots dont change.and if he told you he didnt feel the same for you anymore well take that for what its worth and leave his butt alone, sounds like he is using you for a booty call at his convinace.
2007-03-26 00:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by brandyrolin_36502 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange it to where next time he calls, he will get a recorded message that your phone number is no longer in service. And if he emails, arrange it to where he receives a notification that your email address is no longer valid.
2007-03-25 23:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation deeply concerns me. It sounds to me that he wants to control every aspect of your life. My advice to you is not to get dragged into this relationship again. He's bad news. Think about it, what will be your future if he's already trying to call YOUR shots. I beg of you, don't fall for him again. He'll only make you miserable. Guys like that always do this. This tends to lead to abuse! I'll pray for you. Please, make the right decision here.
2007-03-26 00:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by bond_fan_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is something wrong with you? He is stringing you alone. Leave your exes in the past and you will have no problems. Allow them to reenter and you dig your own grave!
2007-03-25 23:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it counld be many reason that he flip out but it time to get
back in the game and leave the ex where he need to be
dont continue to waste time with the cat and mouse game.
time to move on.
2007-03-26 00:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Rid of this loser, he sounds like he wants you only on his terms. Move on. Good Luck
2007-03-25 23:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Julian K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hurt him, hes not ready to open up and be vulnurable for you to hurt him again
2007-03-25 23:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by musicislife808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on--consider youself lucky
2007-03-25 23:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by kempsvillefd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your craz y
2007-03-25 23:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by fade7887 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋