idk if i can handle this anymore?

Question

my dad has been tracking all the conversations that i've had on AIM for the past 6 months and i just found out today. he's putting in a new program where it tracks everything that i do and locks me off the computer after an hour each day. he's taking away my phone and i can't see any of my friends after school or on weekends. i think i'm gonna go crazy. idk if i should just run away or wat? but i can't live like this any longer.

Answer 1

You can handle it, you can live like that...just calm down. You won't go crazy.

Your Dad sounds a little over protective but in this day and age be glad he's paying that much attention in your life. You have listened to or watched the news right?? There are many creeps out in the world that when given an opportunity will harm naive, trusting people.

I know it sucks to have your privacy invaded and restrictions on stuff you like but I doubt your Dad is doing this because he doesn't like you....quite the opposite, I'm sure he loves you very much and wants to just protect you from bad people and things.

Running away won't solve your perceived problem...it would only make matters worse.
Just finish school, grow up, get a job, save up some money and then leave... why make your life more difficult now?

If you were being molested or beaten or neglected then I would change my tune but believe me you may think you have problems and troubles but there are so many kids in the world that have to endure hardship, poverty and pain just to survive. Think about that for a while....maybe then you'll realize you don't have it so bad.

Sure, now you feel your life sucks *** but it'll be for the best in the end. Strict parents are that way for their child's own good.
If you were abused I'd seek professional help instead of running away...that's never a good solution.

Just hang in there...try to see things his way...Get your Dad to explain to you in a calm fashion why he's doing all of that. Approach him calmly to show your maturity and have a reasonable conversation with him and see if you both can work out a compromise.

Good luck to you...remember you are loved by your father.

Answer 2

Hi Lauryn, what happened 6 months ago for your father to be so involved? Can you think of why he is acting this way? Perhaps sitting down and speaking with him about this may help. Perhaps he is anxious about you due to stories he had heard etc. Maybe he is going through some emotional times? There is more to this than your father simply invading your privacy. Speak to him and tell him how this is really effecting you to the point of wanting to leave home. Communication in this situation is the key. Don't run away as this will not fix the problem. The next time you see him the situation will have become far worse. See how you go with this approach first. You are entittled to privacy however depending upon your age and situation this could be limited.

Answer 3

Well running away sure won't help your situation. You don't mention how old you are, but running away never solves anything no matter how old you are.

For some reason dad does not trust you, only you know the reason for that. You have so show him that you made a mistake and are willing to repent. Repenting for an indefinite time though is not what should be done either. Take the punishment, for what ever the time limit is. If it is for more than three weeks though, its time to sit down with dad and tell him, hey dad I did my time how about giving me some of my privileges back. But what ever ya do don't make the same mistake again, learn from it.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Have you attempted to talk to your dad and find out why he is doing this? Maybe tell him how your feeling and see what comes of it. Trust is not an easy thing to rebuild once it's been broken. He seems to think he can't trust you, maybe look back and reflect and think about why that is.. Talking to him and telling him how you're feeling and finding out what's behind his decisions is an option you should consider. I hope you chose this option instead of running away. Perhaps there's a family member or friend that knows your situation that you can talk to. Or perhaps you can go stay with a friend of relative for a while. What ever you do, don't just run and say nothing to your dad. No parent deserves to not know where their kids are.

Answer 5

So run away. Get your own place, pay your own bills, First there is rent, then utilities (you need electricity to plug the computer into and a phone line if you have dialup internet...)cable bill, if you want to watch television and have cable internet. Dsl bill if you want DSL internet...but that requries a phone line as well. Then of course there is your own medical and dental bills you'll have to pay not to mention groceries, and let's not forget health insurance. You'll have to pay for your own. Ahhh but if you are under 18 you won't be able to do any of those without an adult's signature because minors can not, engage in any contracts legally and most of the companies that run all that I mentioned won't do business with a minor so you'll need to find an adult to sign for you...too bad you ran away from home and left the only adult who MIGHT be willing to do so huh? Ahhh but hell you can live on the streets...get gang raped, have the crap beat out of you on a daily basis. That's right go ahead run away.

Answer 6

parents have a reason for doing things. u must of shown them u can't be trusted or is it because u r grounded for some thing. Or that your parents just want to make sure u r safe there r a lot of weirdo's on the computers that like young girls and boys. U may think u can't stand it but in the long run when u get older u will thank them for being good parnets

Answer 7

Your dad does not trust you, or the Internet. He's right to think that there are bad people out there, but really seems to think you're going to be attached to one. And since he's taking away other privileges, I want to know: what did you do? Because it was probably something like hooking up with way older guys or researching hardcore porn at home.

Sit down and talk with him and ask him why he's doing this, especially restricting you from friends.

Answer 8

he doesnt trust you for some reason. I would loose my mind too! Just try to calm done and talk to your self,not the end of the world but i can see how it might seem like it.
So its your
-computer
-personal stuff
-Phone
-Friends
hm...i see...lots of things on the list but maybe it just because
of somthing you did and will soon pass

Wheres your mom in all this? Talk to her?
im not saying you should run away but if you choose there
are runaway camps where you can go and they wil help you.
I dont think they'll turn you in but they will give you stuff to eat
a place to stay warm. Check into that. Might be far but worth that walk

if you want to im me on aim its--LizabethNicholee

Answer 9

Lauryn, you def. do not need to run away. He still thinks of you as daddys little girl. First you need to show him you are responsible and he needs to trust you. But thats not all. Hes a dad so its not just him trustiing you. He needs to know that you do not trust the world. Show him by respecting his wishes on most things and talk to him. Set him down and tell him that your not an ignorant little girl and that you can make some desicions yourself. Unless your under the age of 14 or you are fourteen. Then he has a reason. Well good louck let me know how it goes. [e-mail]

Tim

Answer 10

I would actually see this as intruding on your privacy and no one has any right to do that, wether he is your father or not that doesn't give him the right to do that. Saying that though how old are you and did you do anything to abuse his trust in you, i mean like sneaking out the house or not coming home. Anyway i suggest you go and see your school counsellor and talk to them about it they may be able to set up a meeting and help mediate it so that it doesn't become too heated or out of control but i see this as a trust and privacy violation. He seems to be very controlling and i think the meeting with you, the counsellor and your parents is probably the best way to go so that you also have someone who can help you understand what is happening and will look out for your best interests.