my fiance called me from afar, at midnight, the night before he was to come home, and he broke up with me, giving me less than 24 hours notice to get out of his house, in winter, with two kids, two weeks before xmas, 1 week before midterms, mind you he knew my aunt would take us in. And his parnets have wrongly labeled me verbally and this was his reason for getting ' confused. he has now told me that I will be put after his friends and family forever and he will be going back home for wekks or months at a time when he is between job contracts. I dont know what to do or if I derserve all this? THe only thing I am honestly guilty of is my temperment and and have taken all steps neccessary to fix me but he has done nothing but take affection away and limits have been put on me. WE now live together but we are not engaged anymore because he is still unsrue of Im a 4ever girl or 4now girl, and I really do love him with all my heart, unconditionally and would nto do anything to hurt him.
2007-03-25 16:41:45 · 5 answers · asked by 4nowgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My heart breaks reading this..
i know what a true love less life is..
and, you are worth more than a string along life..
I know when you have children it is difficult to stand on your own two feet, but honey for theirs and your sake.. i suggest you look for other ways.. So, you and the children can truly have a HAPPY life . I am proud of you to recognize you needed to work on an area of your life. that takes great courage.. If he can't make a commitment , then let him go..
I know it sounds awful, but it isn't half as bad as living a truly unfulfilled life for umpteen years down the road.. There are men who would appreciate you far more than he apparently is.
A man who loves his girl/ wife /other.. respects her first.. for without respect there is never any true love..
My prayers are with you.. Think on this.. This is more control than love.. and you aren't a possession.. your a person.
It's not about forgiving him so much as finding who you really are.. and being an example to your children's futures , to not just settle for , but to be and have the best life one can have.. You have the power to chose.. and make it that.. You alone have the strength if you chose so too, believe in yourself, and your abilities. It will happen..
2007-03-25 16:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course I would forgive this...but let me tell you I would never forget how he treated me and the children.
what does he mean" putting you after his friends and family forever"?
What kind of a sucker are you? How insecure can you be?
chuck him out with the trash...because that is what he is.
Love him my ***. You depend on him for whatever reason, probably financially.
Get a life!!!!! A new life...with someone who makes you and the children number one.
I wish you luck.
2007-03-25 23:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sabine5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of self respect? Move on for Christ sake and realize this loser is just that.What lesson are your children getting from this?..(.that it's o.k. for mom to allow some goof to treat her like crap ) You might love him with all your heart but he's just using you.Are you deserving of better?
2007-03-26 00:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He's using you. I don't know how you can unconditionally love someone who has treated you so badly. He'll never change, and he'll never treat you any better than he is now.
2007-03-25 23:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hides all faults.
2007-03-25 23:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋