What if the boyfreind has made it clear only weeks prior that he is not ready for a serious commitment in his life, wanted to remain single and wasnt really ready to commit after 2 years? This was an extremly high risk pregnancy that would have left the mother with possible long term health problems and the baby was at risk for birth defects.
2007-03-25 16:37:44 · 22 answers · asked by chcknbizkit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She used birth control and was on pyschiatric and chemotherapy drugs for severe health problems and advised but a doctor to wait till her health was better. the guys never been there for her when she needed it and she financiallly didnt have the resources to do it alone. She felt like she was protecting him from the guilt of the procedure since he made it clear he didnt want children with her before. Now hes torturing her with guilt over this and I think she did the right thing. If she couldnt depend on him any other time it was doubtful she could have counted on him to help with this baby...she never would have fogiven herself (and hes certainly wouldnt have) if the baby were born with congenital defects due to her medical problems and the medications she was on that would caused them in the child. YES AGAIN. she was using birth control .
2007-03-25 16:42:54 · update #1
No dont tell him. he wasnt there for her at lal he doesnt deserve to know.
2007-03-25 17:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The current rules of society are that it is up to you to tell him. I don't believe that you are obligated to tell him. A woman's right to choose is just that. There are lots of issues here but the fact that the pregnancy is high risk... you need to take care of you... and be more careful with sex... men and women both need to realize that every time you have sex you are accepting the responsibility of potential parenthood. Condoms, pills, withdrawal... none of them is foolproof. In your case the risks to the baby outweigh the other issues but remember that abortion is not a form of birth control. Good Luck to you.... let this man go... it does not sound like the two of you complement each other.
2007-03-25 16:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO,but I think it could depend on the relationship- it would be a nice thing to do / to include the other person, but in some circumstances - no and it all comes down to what she finds in her own heart to be the right decision for herself!
2007-03-25 16:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by ***35*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-25 16:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him... I'd want to know. Anytime a life is endangered, all involved should at least have knowledge of the situation. Not saying he has any 'rights', especially in the final decision, but I feel he should be made aware.
2007-03-25 16:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Fat & Sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is involved; I think it boils down to being 51% the females opinion and 49% the males.
2007-03-25 16:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Peter H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not touching this one. Look, this is a serious, private, intensely personal matter, and this young woman has to make decisions like this for herself. If you're wise, you'll mind your own business and just be supportive without offering opinions or advice.
2007-03-25 16:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is by no means obligated to tell hI'm anything because it is HER body...unless they are still in a relationship. If she is then he should know if she wants to have an honest relationship...if the shoe was on the other foot im sure you would want to know about the child.
2007-03-25 16:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by shellygrrlrox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure she is obligated, but her risk and decision are a lot of weight to carry by herself. I think he deserves to carry his half of the load.
2007-03-25 16:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by callmeplayfair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not obligated to know, especially if he is leaving the relationship. however a good part of relationships is communication. you should let him know if you two decide to stay together.
either way, it is your choice and your right as a woman
2007-03-25 16:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by nevermore 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋