I have been seeing this guy that I really like for 3 months. We haven't talked about whether or not we are a couple and I don't know if I should bring it up. We have a lot in common and spend a lot of time together. We haven't had sex but we do spend the night together every weekend. I don't want to see anyone else and I don't think he does either. I don't know what I should next or if I should just continue with the way things are.
2007-03-25 16:37:24 · 14 answers · asked by sm2453 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if he was interested in sex, or a relationship he would have made a move after 3 months. I would say it is a lost cause, or he really really shy and immature....only you can tell
2007-04-02 08:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Hun, it depends on how you feel about the relationship. Three months is not all that long, but it sounds like you and he see a lot of each other. It could be you both are pushing things a bit. And it also depends on how old and mature you both are.
An intimate relationship is a very big step if you are too young. Sex gets a hormone called oxytoxin running through your system like cross contry skiers. It's the bonding hormone (that is why break-ups are so emotionally painful, you are going through withdrawal).
Right now, I agree with most of the other respondents: take it slow. If he hasn't made the suggestion to bring it to the next level, it's best to wait. He may not be ready, or he has a great deal of respect for you, and that, my dear is marvelous!
You can't expect to know everything about a person in three months. His temperment in extreme situations, your temperment in extreme situations. Have you had a disagreement, an argument yet? If you don't ever have disagreements, that is not a good sign. I leads one to believe that someone gives in all the time and that is a red flag. Resentment can build. No one should give up who they are to fit another persons perspective of them.
Just think about all the things everyone here has said, pretty much every one of them has a valid point. Whether or not they fit your situation, I don't know. But think about these ideas. You will make a good decision if you take time to think.
Good luck, dear.
2007-04-02 16:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would continue to go with the flow. Three months is not really that long to be going together, and why should you rush a good thing? Every relationship has its own persona. I think that it is nice, especially in this day and age, to let things take a natural path. Your guy might be an all around: decent, respectable, gentleman. For now, enjoy each others company, have fun, and you will know , if need be, when to take action.
2007-04-02 09:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with the way that the relationship is? if so, then continue as you are... but i have a feeling that since you posted your question on here, that you are not really happy, and what you really want to know is how to make the next step. Tell him how you feel about him, ask him how he feels about you and then see what you both think about making yourselves "official" ... just dont be afraid to be open and honest with him... if you are honest with him, and he in turn makes you feel uncomfortable... you might be wasting your time, but if you are open and he is understanding then this will probably make your relationship better... either way, you win... good luck.
2007-04-02 11:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I won't rush things because they could get complicated (been there, done that). Just let time reveal whether or not you guys are meant for each other and don't do anything that you are not ready to do with this guy. If he cares he will understand.
2007-03-25 16:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by rocketpop19 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea.. some situation, except I dont spend weekends with him. But we talk on the phone everyday. Sometime he just calls and ask "what cha doin'?" and we could be on the phone for several hours. Guess just dont rush into it.
2007-03-25 16:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by AL75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him what stage you all are in. Let him know how you feel about him and see if he feels the same way about you. If you won't say anything, he won't either. If you want to be his gf and he your bf you have to let him know. Open the lines of communication. Good luck.
2007-04-02 13:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 thoughts for you;
1) Be up front and honest with him about your feelings and ask if he feels the same about you
2) If you have mutual feelings and decide to have sex, go together to dr or health dept to have std testing done BEFORE becoming intimate, if he has true feelings for you, he'll agree.
2007-04-02 15:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by nursegrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me start by saying i am going throw the same thing at this time so i am not giving u a answer but just relating with u good luck to you all i can say is that men are a hard animal to understand
2007-04-02 15:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the way things are because think about it: what if it offended him if you ask if you are a couple when it turns out he really think you are a couple and he will wonder why you doubt it.
2007-03-25 16:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋