Recently, I started talking to my ex. It all seemed to start out very romantically, and he called every day for a week, and I thought we were talking about getting back together, but he didn't call one night when he had said he would, and I texted him wondering what was going on. He called and started yelling at me--I took it all, thinking it was good to get this kind of feeling out in the open, but then, the next thing I knew, he was pulling back and calling at his convenience only. I tried to be nice and say how happy I was at the positive things he was doing, but he seemed pretty upset. He encouraged me to talk about the past, and we got some very important things out in the open, but then he said something about not wanting to feel obligated to call. Later, he wrote an email in which he talked about wanting to stay in touch but on his terms, and also basically saying that he didn't feel the same way as he used to on the phone. What happened? Is this coming from him or me?
2007-03-25 16:34:20 · 11 answers · asked by Christina V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men need space( I am one). It sounds like he was taking a lot of initiative and was being quite free with how much time he talked with you. No one knows but you and he what was said during these consistent phone calls over the two weeks time but here is the problem. The "one" time he doesn't call you, you text him and ask him what's wrong. You showed him that he can't not call without you feeling something is wrong. If you just gave him his space and let him be free, free without feeling that he's chained to perpetual obligations with you, then you probably would have found yourself talking to him either later that evening or later that week and you most likely would have found him to be very happy. Try not to show your concern so quickly. Let things seethe and boil. Think of time without your mate as time for yourself and a time to become thankful for the time you do spend with him.
2007-03-25 16:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by scotthomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't forget why he's an ex. It sounds like he is not considerate of you and your feelings and therefor is not respecting you. Once he let's you know all of what he wants and how he wants it, and you give him that, he's set the tone of your relationship. Whatever that may be.
However if you acknowledge what he wants and (like the lady you are) simply put no energy into it or him, you will soon feel better about your choice and yourself.And as an added bonus, you'll find that soon enough he'll treat you differently (with RESPECT) and you'll soon realize he was never really worth your time.
People only give you the respect that you already give yourself.If you want a man of respect and adoration, you have to show him a woman deserving of respect and adoration
2007-03-25 23:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by tamasa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason why he is an ex. You both need to figure out if you want a relationship or not. It seems like he wants a relationship without any kind of commitment. It also sounds to me like you really want this to work out.
2007-03-25 23:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's coming from him. He told you he wants to stay in touch with you on his own terms, which means he's still a self-centered loser who was using you to get some things off his chest. Forget about him.
2007-03-25 23:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he is wanting to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to make sure you don't go on with your life and is giving you just enough attn. to wait on his calls, while he does what he wants. Don't let him take advantage of you, because he still knows you have feelings for him.
2007-03-25 23:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its definitely not you..he is the one with the issues and don't let him make you a doormat.he just doesn't want to be your boyfriend or have the emotional connection that comes along with the territory..i think it would be better if you moved on.
2007-03-25 23:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by shellygrrlrox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose him and his temper like an old pair of jeans. Don't take him seriously and just move on. NEXT !
2007-03-25 23:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kendra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to date you, but wants you in the wings in case.. find someone who thinks you are the bomb.. get rid of this loser.
2007-03-25 23:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by californiacathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd say you have a problem. Your ex is your problem. Move on!
2007-03-25 23:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he found a better girl. LOL
2007-03-25 23:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋