Relationship Question?

Question

Well, lately I have been feeling a little off in my relationship. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years and haven't had any problems. Lately though, I have been thinking alot about this friend of mine. We are close and she is great and we have known each other a long time. So what to do?

Please don't just tell me to follow my heart, it is alittle more complex of a matter than that and ending a relationship is no easy task. You want 10 points, earn it!

Answer 1

Okay I think u should think very hard about this. First u have to find out who u have more fun with or what u like about them,and the one u have more fun talking to or just hanging out with is the right one for u. Someone that u can take to something formal or just to the mall. Someone thats always there for u when something happens. Someone that helps and supports u even if they dont agree.

You need to talk to your girlfriend about this problem. Don't get out of a relationship you've been in for 2 years just because it doesn't 'feel right.' You two need to talk it out and work it out. Bring it up casually when you're going somewhere with her or something like that. If this doesn't get resolved with your girlfriend for a few months, then break it off. You can't be stuck in a relationship that's not working for long, even though you worked to build up trust,etc, because then your entire life will be messed up. So in a few months, if this issue doesn't get resolved, you can go for your lady friend, but get to know her real well before you make any kind of move, ok?

Answer 2

Wow, you are in a tight spot. Honestly, you have to follow your heart. I know you don't want to hear it but it is true. Relationships come and go. What do you feel for this friend? Do you get tingles when you are around her? When you think of her smile do you smile? How far would you go for her? If you found out she was getting married tomorrow would you stop the wedding and tell her how you feel? Lame questions, for sure... but these are questions you should ask yourself. Then think about your girlfriend presently and ask yourself the same thing. Dont love someone because you've been with them for so long... love them because you feel something for them. You can force yourself to care for someoe when you truly want nothing more than friendship. Ask yourself the questions and see who as more of the yes answers. Hope all works out.

Answer 3

If you are suddenly unsure after two years, perhaps you are just starting to enter the reality phase of the relationship, the intial "newness" and "infatuation" phase you have outgrown. Give yourself some time before you make any decisions, no need to rock the boat if this is just temporary. If you start thinking about your girlfriend LESS after some time, you should have a talk and state you aren't able to be in a relationship right now.

Answer 4

what if this friend you are thinking of is really repulsed by you? the only way you will find out is if you asked...and I am pretty sure that your girlfriend has a "friend" that she can't get out of her head...we all do..if you love your girlfriend...and she is good to you....why would you want to screw that up for someone that you have been thinking about? did it ever occur to you that this other person might have a life of his or her own and maybe things are ok with them?...why screw it up? why stir up a drama pot when you have a good thing going? if you have a good girl right in front of you...hold onto her...you may NEVER get another chance to be happy with someone else...people spend their lives searching for THAT ONE...some people would give anything to have what you have....maybe theres a guy out there...thinking of your girlfriend as his long lost "friend" would you want the tables to be turned? think about it...look at the whole picture...and then only then...FOLLOW YOUR HEART...10 points or not

Answer 5

wow...I'm the friend in your situation so I'm saying leave your girl. But no...realistically someone will be hurt.
First...never leave the love for the one you like. Bottom line, i know it's a cliche, but it can back fire.
Next are you sure this friend likes you enough to be with you.
And then is everything you invested in this girl worth throwing away for this friend?
If yes are your answers then leave your girlfriend, but if you can't answer yes then you need to stay. Maybe you and your gf should take some time apart so that you can examine your feelings.
Look up the song lyrics to "Where I Wanna Be" by Donnell Jones!

Answer 6

Well I won't say to follow your heart then. You have to know the difference between love and lust. You probably love your girlfriend and care about your friend which is turning into lust. No offense in my opinion. So you have to decide which one you want, love or lust?? Relationships are work, work that you have to do together, you can't have only one of doing the work. It's like a flower, if you don't water it everyday it will die. So good luck in your quest for you answer honey.

Answer 7

I think that it is better to be with the girl whom you already know for a long time. cause you probably know her character more and is already like a family.
Tell your girlfriend now that she is a great person and that you chose to be with the other girl because you just feel that when you know a person longer it will build a stronger relationship and stuff like that.
It is best to still be friends with your girlfriend though.

Answer 8

You really need to ask yourself if you would be happy with your current girlfriend or would you be with your friend from the past. If I was you I would also ask myself this: "Do I want to be with this person from past because I truly care for them or am I doing this out of comfort?" Some people tend to make certain decision base on comfort, don't make that choice. I hope I did confuse you.

Hope this works, good luck.

Answer 9

wow 2 years is alot, but also if u go with your other friend and u break up, things wont be the same and u lost ur gf and ur best f. I suggest u just keep freidns with ur best friend and carry out with ur relationship;

Answer 10

Well honestly. Right now, I can tell you aren't thinking with your head. Not with your heart either. Go lower... Hint: It is located under the belly button.