Theres this girl that I work with who I like. I am really shy with girls and I haven't talked to her or anything yet. I want to get to know her but I feel to afraid to even talk to her. I've noticed that she is kinda quiet herself and I've been told that she's really nice but I keep getting this feeling that she doesn't like me, or she thinks im obnoxuious even though she doesn't know me, or that she thinks im not good enough for her. I want to talk to her and get to know her but im scared she might try to avoid me or something.
How can I overcome my fear?? Whats the best way to get to know her??
2007-03-25 16:29:31 · 11 answers · asked by absolutebalderdash1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off Take a deep breath! now exhale... good do that slowly while reading this.... You are your worst critic.. It is okay to try to think of aspects on how things will work out and you have covered some pretty good what if in the negative way.. now let us take some steps to look at things a little positively.... You say you work with her so I am sure you have a pretty good idea of her routine at work... Sometimes a few good mornings with a smile for a few days is a good start...if you both happen to catch each others eye just smile....ask her how her day is going if you bump into each other.. or you could just go to the work place tomorrow and ask her if you could buy her a cup of coffee after work or something... The worse thing that can happen is she says NO right.. so you will feel a little deflatted but life will go on I promise you! But think of the posiblities if she says YES???
2007-04-02 15:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by dawnsmysticalwonders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what you THINK she thinks of you. That's probably just your insecurities talking. Ignore all that and instead say to yourself "I am a nice guy and I AM good enough for her". And then just find a reason to walk past her - when you do, make eye contact, give her a big smile, and say hello. If you're really shy, that's all you need to say the first time. You don't need to have a big conversation. Just a friendly hello. After several hellos back and forth, you will be feeling more comfortable talking with her. Or you may find her really friendly after the first hello and you end up chatting a bit.
Why not try it, she may be waiting for you to say something to her. Good luck!
2007-04-02 22:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
overcome your fear? there's no way you can do that. the problem is you're letting your mind get in the way of your heart? sounds cheesy, i kno. make a move dont even think about it. ok think about but just not too hard. otherwise you'll talk yourself out of it or like think about it too long and you're chance slips away
2007-04-02 23:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by prettypinay831 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, maybe the first time ( Hi ) with a smile. ( Hi how are you.) or (Hi It's nice to day.) with a smile. and move on until the next time. And before long talking and soon it will be more. Just be nice.
2007-04-02 20:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find a reason to talk business with her. Then say hello and smile when you see her. Then have lunch. Then ask her to have dinner after work. During all this time, your relationship will develop -- or it won't.
2007-04-02 19:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm. I'd say talk to her.
:D
Really though, if you can't bring yourself to talk to her sometimes, give her a small smile as you two walk past each other and maybe a 'hey'
If you're feeling a brave a
'hows your day so far?'
2007-03-25 23:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Juliette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, true. But sometimes if you want it bad enough, you will take a chance and ove over comes! I am sorry, 2day I am out there, I am listening to 'fall back into my life' by the best band in the world Amber Pacific!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥
2007-03-25 23:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by ♥•♥Melody♥•♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nick, you'll never know unless you try to talk to her. Be nice and be yourself. Don't be a jerk and don't try to impress her. She'll probably see through it. Try to find something legitimately work related to ask her and take it from there. See how she reacts. Don't be pushy. Good luck.
2007-03-25 23:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by 000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok everone has this you shouldntt be ashmed ok so if you see her smiling or even laughing you should just walk up to her and say "Hello my name is Nick." and see where it goes from there just imagin her as somone you've know for years and juat be cool and dont lie because women never lyke a man who lie sso stay clm and be cool
2007-04-02 23:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by megan c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking to someone is like jumping in a cold pool take a deep breath and take the punch ask her if she wants to go for coffee or to eat
2007-03-25 23:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Princess♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋