Is this a good reason for a parent to spank his 7 year old with a belt?

Question

I live with my uncle, and his family. My 7 year old nephew had a friend over from his class. He was another 7 year old boy. The friend stayed over to sleep. I got so scared when I saw my uncle spanking my nephew in the middle of the night. My uncle doesn’t drink or anything, he was completely sober thinking clearly when he was spanking him in front of his friend. I asked my aunt why did he spanked him, and she told me because my nephew and his classmate were sleeping on the same bed. I tried talking to my uncle the next day, and he told me the boy needed to learn that’s not right. I feel so bad for my nephew, I think he’s doesn’t care about the spanking as much as for being spanked in front of his friend.

Is it right to spank a boy in this case?

Answer 1

if you lived with your uncle, you have to respect the rules of there house even if you don't like the way they race their kids,
your aunt probably couldn't tell you what happened in that moment b4 the spanking.
When I was single I was so against spanking and yelling. But now with two children I never have the need to spank my first child but my second no matter what I do even time out, no play with friends, no toys, talk to him with manners She wouldn't understand and behave and once in a while is well worth.
Your aunt did something VERY wrong thought, she hit the kid in front of his friend! that is totally unaceptable. your nephew will be very embarazed.

Answer 2

What's wrong with two 7 yr old boys sleeping in the same bed? And spanking with a belt is BEATING, which is child abuse. It's one thing if your nephew had stolen a CD or something-- yeah, an HAND spanking would be in order, followed by some major restrictions. But beating a kid IN FRONT OF his friend for sharing a bed??? I think it's time to make a report to Social Services. I mean, if he's doing this with you as a witness, what is he doing to your nephew when no one is around???

Answer 3

I would have to agree with you that spanking a 7 year old boy for sharing a bed with another boy of the same age is just plain wrong. Your uncle was wrong for two reasons even though I understand his line of thinking. Your uncle is homophobic, which is a dislike for homosexuals. Homosexuality is wrong in Biblical Sense. But two 7 year old boys don't even know what sex is and could care less if the other person he is sharing his bed with is another boy his age. All he see's is his friend nothing sexual about it and therefore your uncle owes him an I am so sorry son. I encourage him to do that ASAP. This will build again the bonds between father and son and open up the door of communication nothing will break.

Answer 4

In this case, not it's not a good reason for your nephew's father to be "spanking" his 7 year old son with a belt. It seems like you uncle wasn't just spanking, but yet it seems like h was beating him with the belt.

Your uncle seems homophobic, but just because two young boys share a bed together doesn't mean that they 1. were doing anything sexually or 2. are homosexuals. Your uncle was way out of line as a male and a father.

And I'm very disappointed and ashamed and angered that your aunt just "sat" there and let this take place. (your uncle beating him). That's also abuse on her part because she let your uncle participate in this act.

I'm not against spanking at all, but I feel like your uncle was beating this child and was obviously out of line. I would never allow a child to stay over there again. I couldn't stand the thought that if he breaks and lashes out on yet another child.

If your nephew appears to have bruises and such on his body or butt from the belt, I think you 1. need to talk to your aunt and uncle and 2.inform someone in hopes it doesn't happen again.

Just try to watch over your nephew as much as you can.

Answer 5

There are certain times when it's ok to discipline your child, but there are certain ways that you should do it. Hitting your child should never happen and spanking your child with a belt is very retro. Nowadays, if you spank your child with a belt or even spank your child with your hand, it can be considered child abuse. I think that what your uncle did was EXTREMELY wrong and you should talk to him about what happened. I mean, these kids are only 7 years old and should not have to worry that they are homosexuals by sleeping in the same bed. I'm 18 and I still sleep in the same bed as my girl friends and I've even seen some of my guy friends sleep in the same bed. None of us are gay or even think about it in that way, we all just need somewhere to sleep. Your uncle definitely did the wrong thing by spanking your nephew with a belt for sleeping in the same bed as his friend.

Answer 6

I am sure you developed an opinion of this before asking if it was OK...?

You obviously questioned it, so you were correct to do so. A good sit down discussion.."Son , You must understand how I feel about this sleep over"... would have been a much better approach.

I am now 36 and I was spanked up until the age of 7 when I did something that angered of my mom. It was a homemade board and HURT! ...and I never did the same bad thing again. Mom wanted to simply let me know she was mad.

Now, she was abused by her mother badly as a young girl everyday. As for me, I was spanked maybe 5 times in my whole young life.

That was then. Back then it was just starting to be recognized as abuse. Now, it is "QUICK CALL THE POLICE!" Ok, ok. Yes, it is a recognized form of abuse....I am not saying it is OK. IT IS NOT!
But let's have some perspective... Though I think if someone did that to my mom, I would have been MORE traumatized if they took her to prison for spanking.

No one on Yahoo answers has the ability to "counsel" based on the information you have and have not provided here...such as the age of your uncle and *his* upbringing. He obviously has a generation gap and different values to those of us who are Millennial, Gen Xers (me), or even some Baby Boomers (my mom).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_generations

Your uncle may not realize how this is viewed today based on more research showing the mental impact of such "belt whippings". It may be smart to have a discussion with one of your elders about the "answers" that are being given here on Yahoo.

Talk to someone before he really hurts your nephew and teaches him a lesson, your uncle will never forget.

Answer 7

A child should never be spanked with a belt, a hand is acceptable is some cases. Also, he should have talked to his child first instead of spanking him in front of his friend. And where else was his friend going to sleep? Your uncle should have made up a sleeping place for him or laid some clear ground rules before they went to bed. If he didnt want the boy sleeping in his sons bed he should have told him that. And what did he think they were going to do? Just because you sleep in the same bed with a friend when you're 7 doesnt mean you're going to grow up to be gay or something. Your uncle was very wrong in doing that.

Answer 8

I did not think that your uncle had to spank your nephew all because his friend was laying in the same bed as him and I think that your uncle was definitely re-acting towards the situation, I would never spank my child with an object, the most my child would get is a few swats on the butt to get my point acrossed.

Answer 9

No! I don't think it's ever right to spank a kid with a belt, much less when the kid didn't do anything wrong. Even if your uncle doesn't think 2 seven year-olds should be sleeping in the same bed, how would his son know that? That's horrible.

Answer 10

It's never right to spank a child with a belt no matter the reason. Your uncle is obviously homophobic, which is sad. He needs to get some help, spanking a child with a belt is abuse.