Two weeks ago, my ex and I were talking every day, and I thought we were going to get back together. I brought up some issues and I thought the conversation went very well, but the next thing I knew, he was writing this:
I don't want to have to feel like I have to call you because I feel forced to call or text. Our conversations don't feel the same way to me. I feel strained. This is partly because it is not important to me. Maybe I am being heavy handed, but I cannot give you the time you want and the ability to say I can call you at this time. I would rather say, let me get back to you when I feel comfortable, rather than, tomorrow, because I know tomorrow I am going to be busy. There is no rush, either, to do anything, and if there was a rush, I would really need a good explanation...
I do not want the responsibility of being the reason you are visiting NYC. What is it that you want now, out of our conversations? Be clear. I know what I want: to feel good when I talk to you.
2007-03-25 16:25:10 · 5 answers · asked by Christina V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes looking to be excused from this relationship and if he puts it in your lap its your responsibility not his
2007-03-25 16:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has moved on and he knows that u have not. he is telling you exactly how he feels because he doesn't want to lead you on in thinking what is not there.
when anyone says that they feel strained, that is a lot...he is not your bo anymore...he probably wants to or is dating and having this phone/text relationship with you is probably not helping him.
he obviously wants to keep in touch which is a good thing. but not as boyfriends, or best friends, only as friends. which means every once in a while i will drop you a line or call. no obligations. no schedule. and no long conversations about our relationship.
sweetie it 's time for you to let that go and either start dating, or take the time away to get over your loss and above all, stop expecting him to be attached to you.
the cord has been cut.
you need to think about if you are talking to him in the hopes of getting back together. in that case you may just want to stop talking to him for a while.
you may want to write him back. not call, but write. and tell him that you didn't know he felt like that, and that it was not your intention. that you understand he is moving and that you will need more time to do so. and while you are at it, tell him that you will not travel to nyc to see him. until you know for a fact that you are over him.
stay away from him after that. that is until your heart is healed. by then you may not want to be bothered by him either.
respect his wishes, he will appreciate that and so will you later on.
2007-03-25 23:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by la21unica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not back together.. don't call him, don't write or text. Disapear.. and don't let anyone ever talk to you like that again.
2007-03-25 23:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by californiacathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's seeing someone else. He doesn't want to upset you. He's trying to be cordial. Your expecting something that's not. Move on and find someone who'll love you for you...
2007-03-25 23:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by James M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i dont kno wat 2 say... i would hate 4 it be have been me though... Well maybe u should jus give him some space thats wat i did 2 my boyfriend and after 1day of not talkin 2 him at all he was callin & wantin me back!
2007-03-25 23:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋