ok so I have been seeing this guy for a few months..and he seems to be great...I am very comfortable with him and I dont want to see anyone else..I am not sure if I love him or not simply cause its too soon...HOWEVER....he tells me all the time that he doesnt want a commitment...which means to me that I am fair game for anyone else that comes along..I am not seeing anyone else..nor do I want to...but...even though he treats me like I am his girlfriend...and makes comments about other guys...what is his deal?? I mean...how hard can it be??..I dont get it...HELP!!
2007-03-25 16:19:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being exclusive and making a commitment are different things.
Commitment: your relationship is official, you two are actually going somewhere relationship-wise
Exclusive: just dating each other
2007-03-25 16:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend. I am going through the exact same thing. I was seeing a guy who wanted us to see each other wouldn't commit not right now he said as he wasn't in the frame of mind and all that. and got really hurt in the end girl as it was just empty promises! I have stopped calling him and am going to be with someone who will make me 1st priority over anyone!! these are commitment phobies who always look for something new coming and are never satisfied no matter what good they have. Please leave him sweetheart. Email me if you want joddelm@levi.com
2007-03-25 23:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does no longer care really. I loved - became keen about - Nirvana back in 1993/1994/1995/1996. i became a loopy fan. Now i'm grown up and nonetheless like the song yet I comprehend that each person has different tastes and really do not provide a crap what everyone else listens to because surely i don't have the time to care.
2016-12-02 19:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just treat him as a good friend.
He might be very careful in committing into relationships and doesnt want to fail once he's committed, but he hasn't made up his mind whether u're the one that he should commit.
2007-03-25 16:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by AL75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he puts an engagement ring on your finger with a set wedding date or actually marries you, you are free. If he's not ready to make a commitment (it does sound as if it's too soon), he should not try to tie you down. Don't let him put you on lockdown while he is out exploring.
2007-03-25 16:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be fair to yourself since he is not going to be to you. Don't commit to a one sided relationship but don't push him either. He will regret it and make you also. Just let him know that you can not tie down knowing that you are not the only either. What is fair for one is fair for both right?
2007-03-25 16:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's possessive and you are an easy fall back. He knows you'll be there when he wants you. He's afraid of his true feelings. I would guess commitment issues. Be careful with this one. If he starts to think your his property to control you'll have issues. Maybe some insecurity issues. This will create allot of problems in the future. AND NO!!! you can't change him...
2007-03-25 16:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by James M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, believe me it will not get any better, so to save your feelings from being hurt you may want to walk away, better yet.....RUN!!! I am trying to find closure from a situation very similar to this, but I found out a lot of stuff about the guy I was with for 8 months, who i was falling for. He was still married to his wife (that he referred to as his ex-wife), had a daughter w/ his wife, a baby mama.
On top of that, he was very, very, immature. Don't sell yourself short and settle for anything and do what make you happy.
2007-03-25 16:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by rocketpop19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that does sound frustrating. it seems that though he seems to have great boyfriend qualities he just doesn't want to be a boyfriend because he is interested in quite a few girls. if you cant convince him to just be yours then dont be in the relationship because though he is honest, you arent being fair to yourself. give him time, cause he might just realize you are all that and come back around :)
2007-03-25 16:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is commitment phobic. If you want a sure thing, he's not the guy for you. You could be waiting for years, if not forever, for him to commit. Cut your losses and move on.
2007-03-25 16:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by cavyslave2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋